Withhold Quote by Jarod Kintz
““If you supplied me a tissue, I wouldn’t need it because I wouldn’t feel like crying. But if you withhold it, you’ll make me sad and you’ll make me cry, thus causing me to need the very thing you won’t give me. So if you give it to me, I won’t need it, and if you don’t give it to me, your actions end up causing me to need it.””
About This Quote
The paradox shows how denying a need can create that need, highlighting how actions can unintentionally cause the very thing they try to avoid.
In simple terms: Denying something can cause you to want it.
Key Takeaway
Be aware of how withholding can create dependence.
Themes
psychology
paradox
dependence
control
communication
Mood
reflective
thoughtful
cautious
Type
analytical
philosophical
advisory
When to use this quote
- interpersonal conflict
- negotiation
- parenting
- customer service
- leadership
Key Concepts
self‑fulfilling prophecy
need creation
emotional manipulation
Questions to Reflect On
- What needs are you unintentionally creating?
- How can you meet needs without causing dependence?
A Different Perspective
If the need is genuine, withholding may be harmful rather than helpful.
