We hear from time to time about horrible human rights atrocities happening around the globe. Our government claims that it stands in… — Lundy Bancroft Atrocities Copy Share Image
“Every aspect of the multipronged legal system even today is dominated by males: police, prosecutors, judges, probation officers. In addition, the state… — Lundy Bancroft Legal system Copy Share Image
“There are two main principles to keep in mind when deciding how much potential an abuser has to become a kind, respectful… — Lundy Bancroft Hope for the future Copy Share Image
“The scars from mental cruelty can be as deep and long-lasting as wounds from punches or slaps but are often not as… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“The man’s rights and the woman’s rights are the same size. They have the right to have their opinions and desires respected,… — Lundy Bancroft Decision making Copy Share Image
“Abuse grows from attitudes and values, not feelings. The roots are ownership, the trunk is entitlement, and the branches are control.” — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
It is not possible to be truly balanced in one's views of an abuser and an abused woman. As Dr. Judith Herman… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“In the 1890s, when Freud was in the dawn of his career, he was struck by how many of his female patients… — Lundy Bancroft Abusive-men Copy Share Image
“I am often asked whether physical aggression by women toward men, such as a slap in the face, is abuse. The answer… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“Each boy’s socialization is unique. Even two siblings close in age do not learn identical values. Culture is thus transmitted on a… — Lundy Bancroft Children Copy Share Image
If we want abusers to change, we will have to require them to give up the luxury of exploitation. — Lundy Bancroft Abusers Copy Share Image
“ABUSIVE MEN COME in every personality type, arise from good childhoods and bad ones, are macho men or gentle, “liberated” men. No… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“-He drives recklessly or speeds up when he’s angry. -He punches walls or kicks doors. -He throws things around, even if they… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
As long as we see abusers as victims, or as out-of-control monsters, they will continue getting away with ruining lives. If we… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
Abuse counselors say of the abusive client: “When he looks at himself in the morning and sees his dirty face, he sets… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“A home where a woman is abused is a small-scale model of much larger oppressive systems that work in remarkably similar ways.… — Lundy Bancroft Labor union Copy Share Image
“Have you ever suffered a sharp disappointment or a painful loss and found yourself looking for someone to blame? Have you, for… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“The confusion of love with abuse is what allows abusers who kill their partners to make the absurd claim that they were… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“A man’s beliefs about the effects of the substance will largely be borne out. If he believes that alcohol can make him… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“Have you ever heard a woman claim that the reason why she is chronically mistreating her male partner is because a previous… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“The central attitudes driving the Drill Sergeant are: I need to control your every move or you will do it wrong. I… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“The central attitudes driving the Victim are: Everybody has done me wrong, especially the women I’ve been involved with. Poor me. When… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“Abused women aren't "codependent." It is abusers, not their partners, who create abusive relationships.” — Lundy Bancroft Abused women Copy Share Image
“Addiction does not cause partner abuse, and recovery from addiction does not “cure” partner abuse.” — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“The central attitudes driving Mr. Right are: You should be in awe of my intelligence and should look up to me intellectually.… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
