Abuse Quote by Lundy Bancroft
““The underlying attitude comes bursting out of his words: He believes his wife is keeping something of his away from him when she doesn’t want intimate contact. He sees sexual rights to a woman as akin to mineral rights to land—and he owns them.””
About This Quote
Source Book: "The Sexual Healing Journey", Lundy Bancroft, 1995
A man perceives his wife's lack of intimacy as a loss of his sexual rights, equating them to property ownership.
In simple terms: He treats intimacy like a property dispute.
Key Takeaway
Respect boundaries and view intimacy as mutual consent.
Themes
intimacy
ownership
rights
communication
Mood
critical
empathetic
Type
educational
psychological
When to use this quote
- marriage counseling
- relationship workshops
- personal therapy
- education
Key Concepts
power dynamics
gender roles
Questions to Reflect On
- How does framing intimacy as ownership affect relationships?
- What alternative perspectives promote healthy consent?
A Different Perspective
Equating intimacy to property can perpetuate control.
