Abuse Quote by Lundy Bancroft

“When people conclude that anger causes abuse, they are confusing cause and effect. Ray was not abusive because he was angry; he was angry…

— Lundy Bancroft

But whether you stay or go, the critical decision you can make is to stop letting your partner distort the lens of your life,…

— Lundy Bancroft

“The abusive man’s high entitlement leads him to have unfair and unreasonable expectations, so that the relationship revolves around his demands. His attitude is:…

— Lundy Bancroft

Physical aggression by a man toward his partner is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole…

— Lundy Bancroft

Disrespect also can take the form of idealizing you and putting you on a pedestal as a perfect woman or goddess, perhaps treating you…

— Lundy Bancroft

“The central attitudes driving Mr. Right are: You should be in awe of my intelligence and should look up to me intellectually. I know…

— Lundy Bancroft

“Have you ever heard a woman claim that the reason why she is chronically mistreating her male partner is because a previous man abused…

— Lundy Bancroft

“The confusion of love with abuse is what allows abusers who kill their partners to make the absurd claim that they were driven by…

— Lundy Bancroft

“ABUSIVE MEN COME in every personality type, arise from good childhoods and bad ones, are macho men or gentle, “liberated” men. No psychological test…

— Lundy Bancroft

“The scars from mental cruelty can be as deep and long-lasting as wounds from punches or slaps but are often not as obvious. In…

— Lundy Bancroft

“Objectification is a critical reason why an abuser tends to get worse over time. As his conscience adapts to one level of cruelty—or violence—he…

— Lundy Bancroft

“The symptoms of abuse are there, and the woman usually sees them: the escalating frequency of put-downs. Early generosity turning more and more to…

— Lundy Bancroft