But whether you stay or go, the critical decision you can make is to stop letting your partner distort the lens of… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“When people conclude that anger causes abuse, they are confusing cause and effect. Ray was not abusive because he was angry; he… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“I'd lost myself in the abyss of someone else's tyranny...again.” — Cassandra Giovanni Copy Share Image
“The woman knows from living with the abusive man that there are no simple answers. Friends say: “He’s mean.” But she knows… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“HE ISN’T ABUSIVE BECAUSE HE IS ANGRY; HE’S ANGRY BECAUSE HE’S ABUSIVE.” — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“If you walked away from a toxic, negative, abusive, one-sided, dead-end low vibrational relationship or friendship — you won.” — Lalah Delia Copy Share Image
“There came a time in my life when I had to admit to myself that I have some very clear narcissistic tendencies.… — Beverly Engel Copy Share Image
“This is the hardest part— That boy is not made of fists. That boy learned how to braid my hair. These things… — Brenna Twohy Copy Share Image
“Objectification is a critical reason why an abuser tends to get worse over time. As his conscience adapts to one level of… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“I think maybe, when I was very young, I witnessed a chaste cheek kiss between the two when it was impossible to… — Gillian Flynn Copy Share Image
“Yes, indeed, I am the stuff, the prize property, the recaptured trophy he will put up on the mantelpiece, in a rage… — Kaimana Wolff Copy Share Image
“Outside of my professional life, I have known many couples over the years who had passion and electricity between them and who… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“Sometimes I cry, wondering how it was possible that I could have been so goddamn weak, so f*cking spineless. Without you around,… — Heather Demetrios Copy Share Image
“The scars from mental cruelty can be as deep and long-lasting as wounds from punches or slaps but are often not as… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“Narcissists are very retaliative if they believe another has achieved what they desire, exposed their insecurities, or refused to be under their… — Lorraine Nilon Copy Share Image
“Have you read my emails before?" I ask. I try to keep my voice casual but I can hear the anxiety in… — Heather Demetrios Copy Share Image
“I am often asked whether physical aggression by women toward men, such as a slap in the face, is abuse. The answer… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“Many neglected and abused children grow up to be adults who are afraid to take risks of striking out on their own.… — Beverly Engel Copy Share Image
“Embedded in their psyche was the story of what had happened to the world, and the boys felt glorious to be on… — Pernell Plath Meier Copy Share Image
“ABUSIVE MEN COME in every personality type, arise from good childhoods and bad ones, are macho men or gentle, “liberated” men. No… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“Each time he came he would twist my defenceless body into a different pose, as if I were his very own doll” — Rachel Abbott Copy Share Image
“The confusion of love with abuse is what allows abusers who kill their partners to make the absurd claim that they were… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“I am done looking for love where it doesn’t exist. I am done coughing up dust in attempts to drink from dry… — Maggie Young Copy Share Image
“Don’t confuse “familiar” with “acceptable”. Toxic relationships can fool you like that.” — Steve Maraboli Copy Share Image
