“She’d worn anxiety like a thick robe for so long that it was hard for her to take it off.” — Pernell Plath Meier Copy Share Image
“...you turn and grab my chin--not hard, but the way you do with a child when you want them to focus on… — Heather Demetrios Copy Share Image
“Sometimes, some of you speak about god, and I mistake him for an abusive lover you're trying to escape.” — Darnell Lamont Walker Copy Share Image
Physical aggression by a man toward his partner is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“An abusive relationship typically includes choices in partners who have histories of destructive and narcissistic behavior, and who commonly struggle with their… — Annie Tanasugarn, PhD Copy Share Image
“Playing the victim role: Manipulator portrays him- or herself as a victim of circumstance or of someone else's behavior in order to… — George K. Simon Jr Copy Share Image
“Although the typical abusive man works to maintain a positive public image, it is true that some women have abusive partners who… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“Hey!” The male voice sliced through the noise. Terri ignored him, determined to get back to the bar for her next order.… — Brandi Salazar Copy Share Image
“The abuser does not believe, however, that his level of authority over the children should be in any way connected to his… — Lundy Bancroft Bancroft Copy Share Image
“Somehow it felt familiar, an old story retold, the claws in my shoulder, my arms twisted behind my back, the drag down… — Kaimana Wolff Copy Share Image
“YOUR ABUSIVE PARTNER DOESN’T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH HIS ANGER; HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH YOUR ANGER. One of the basic human… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“It is important to note that research has shown that men who have abusive mothers do not tend to develop especially negative… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“I have sometimes said to a client: “If you are so in touch with your feelings from your abusive childhood, then you… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“One of the obstacles to recognizing chronic mistreatment in relationships is that most abusive men simply don’t seem like abusers. They have… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“He had to get inside. It was essential that he know everything, the routes she took, her schedule, and the lay of… — Brandi Salazar Copy Share Image
“It is fine to commiserate with a man about his bad experience with a previous partner, but the instant he uses her… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“Most of us knew in our bones that things with the world weren’t right, long before it became a crisis.” — Pernell Plath Meier Copy Share Image
“Abusive relationships exist because they provide enough rations of warmth, laughter, and affection to clutch onto like a security blanket in the… — Maggie Young Copy Share Image
“When a man’s face contorts in bitterness and hatred, he looks a little insane. When his mood changes from elated to assaultive… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“Invalidating someone else is not merely disagreeing with something that the other person said. It is a process in which individuals communicate… — David M. Allen Copy Share Image
“The quiet but inexorable breaking down of self-esteem is much more sinister - it’s violation of the soul.” — Rachel Abbott Copy Share Image
“In a verbally abusive relationship, the partner learns to tolerate abuse without realizing it and to lose self-esteem without realizing it. She… — Patricia Evans Copy Share Image
“The abuser’s mood changes are especially perplexing. He can be a different person from day to day, or even from hour to… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
“You can have a pet zebra and put that zebra into a small cage every day and tell the zebra that you… — C. JoyBell C Copy Share Image
“IN ONE IMPORTANT WAY, an abusive man works like a magician: His tricks largely rely on getting you to look off in… — Lundy Bancroft Copy Share Image
