Abuse Quote by Lundy Bancroft
““It is fine to commiserate with a man about his bad experience with a previous partner, but the instant he uses her as an excuse to mistreat you, stop believing anything he tells you about that relationship and instead recognize it as a sign that he has problems with relating to women.””
About This Quote
Source Book: Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov, 2002
When a man repeatedly blames past partners for his bad behavior, it signals deeper relational issues and unreliability.
In simple terms: His excuses reveal a pattern of blaming and mistreatment.
Key Takeaway
Stop trusting his explanations; set boundaries.
Themes
relationships
trust
boundaries
Mood
cautious
assertive
Type
advice
warning
When to use this quote
- dating
- relationship counseling
- self‑care
- friendship
Key Concepts
psychology
attachment
gender dynamics
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you differentiate genuine vulnerability from manipulation?
- What boundaries will you enforce?
A Different Perspective
He may claim innocence, but patterns often repeat despite excuses.
