Abuse Quote by Lundy Bancroft
““Abuse is not his goal, but control is, and he finds himself using abuse to gain the control he feels he has a right to.””
About This Quote
Source Book: Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft, 2002
Abusers seek control, using abuse as a tool to maintain a perceived right to dominate.
In simple terms: Control drives abusive behavior.
Key Takeaway
Recognize control motives behind abuse.
Themes
power
control
abuse
relationships
Mood
anxious
defensive
Type
cautionary
insightful
When to use this quote
- dating
- family therapy
- legal counseling
- personal safety
Key Concepts
psychology
coercive control
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you differentiate control from genuine concern?
- What boundaries protect you from covert abuse?
A Different Perspective
Abusers may also manipulate victims emotionally, not just physically.
