Abuse Quote by Lundy Bancroft
“Disrespect also can take the form of idealizing you and putting you on a pedestal as a perfect woman or goddess, perhaps treating you like a piece of fine china. The man who worships you in this way is not seeing you; he is seeing his fantasy, and when you fail to live up to that image he may turn nasty. So there may not be much difference between the man who talks down to you and the one who elevates you; both are displaying a failure to respect you as a real human being and bode ill.”
About This Quote
Source Article: Respect in Relationships, 2018
Idealizing someone creates unrealistic expectations; when they fail, the admirer may become hostile, similar to condescension.
In simple terms: Putting someone on a pedestal can be disrespectful.
Key Takeaway
Treat people as real humans, not fantasies.
Themes
respect
idealization
relationships
Mood
cautionary
reflective
Type
advice
philosophical
When to use this quote
- dating
- workplace
- friendships
Key Concepts
psychology
gender dynamics
Questions to Reflect On
- Do you ever feel judged by unrealistic expectations?
- How can you foster authentic respect?
A Different Perspective
Idealization can hide genuine connection.
