Abusers Quote by Lundy Bancroft

“Objectification is a critical reason why an abuser tends to get worse over time. As his conscience adapts to one level of cruelty—or violence—he…

— Lundy Bancroft

“The ability of the abuser to harm someone close to him or her fits perfectly into the lack of relational attachment that is present…

— Shannon Thomas

“In a verbally abusive relationship, the partner learns to tolerate abuse without realizing it and to lose self-esteem without realizing it. She is blamed…

— Patricia Evans

“Emotional abuse can leave a victim feeling like a shell of a person, separated from the true essence of who they naturally are. It…

— Lorraine Nilon

“Almost no abuser is mean or frightening all the time. At least occasionally, he is loving, gentle, and humorous and perhaps even capable of…

— Lundy Bancroft

“Emotional abusers condition their victims to feel ashamed, inadequate, and unstable. This is because they are cowards, incapable of healthy relationships with strong and…

— Jackson MacKenzie

“By developing a contaminated, stigmatized identity, the child victim takes the evil of the abuser into herself and thereby preserves her primary attachments to…

— Judith Lewis Herman

“The abuser’s mood changes are especially perplexing. He can be a different person from day to day, or even from hour to hour. At…

— Lundy Bancroft

“When others witness or comment on abusive behaviors, the little voice that the upscale abused wife once heard inside her and ignored or muffled…

— Susan Weitzman

“ABUSIVE MEN COME in every personality type, arise from good childhoods and bad ones, are macho men or gentle, “liberated” men. No psychological test…

— Lundy Bancroft

“The symptoms of abuse are there, and the woman usually sees them: the escalating frequency of put-downs. Early generosity turning more and more to…

— Lundy Bancroft

“An abuser's behavior is primarily conscious – he acts deliberately rather than by accident or by losing control of himself – but the underlying…

— Lundy Bancroft