Has he ever trapped you in a room and not let you out? Has he ever raised a fist as if he… — Lundy Bancroft Answers Copy Share Image
“The volatile, abusive, and sometimes dangerous reactions that abusers can have when relationships draw to a close have often been considered, especially… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“He doesn't object to her sexualization, he just wants to be in control of it, and he wants it oriented towards his… — Lundy Bancroft Parenting Copy Share Image
“The abuser’s mood changes are especially perplexing. He can be a different person from day to day, or even from hour to… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“Alcohol does not a change a person’s fundamental value system. People’s personalities when intoxicated, even though somewhat altered, still bear some relationship… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“As I have explained in earlier chapters, abusiveness has little to do with psychological problems and everything to do with values and… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“Consider how challenging it is to negotiate or compromise with a man who operates on the following tenets (whether or not he… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“IN ONE IMPORTANT WAY, an abusive man works like a magician: His tricks largely rely on getting you to look off in… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“HOW CAN I TELL IF A MAN I’M SEEING WILL BECOME ABUSIVE? • He speaks disrespectfully about his former partners. • He… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“The underlying attitude comes bursting out of his words: He believes his wife is keeping something of his away from him when… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“As a product of Anglo-Saxon-Protestant culture, I am familiar with its centuries-old tradition of hiding its abuse of women under pretty packaging.” — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“To make matters worse, everyone she talks to has a different opinion about the nature of his problem and what she should… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
The sense of ownership is one reason why abuse tends to get worse as relationships get more serious. The more history and… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“The salient point about remorse, however, is that it matters little whether it is genuine or not. Clients who get very sorry after acts… — Lundy Bancroft Change Copy Share Image
“Resistance never disappears; it waits in the shadows, sometimes for many years, and then eventually sprouts again. You may have gone through… — Lundy Bancroft Dark times Copy Share Image
“Has he ever trapped you in a room and not let you out? Has he ever raised a fist as if he… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
Physical aggression by a man toward his partner is abuse, even if it happens only once. — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“Your abusive partner’s cycles of moving in and out of periods of cruelty can cause you to feel very close to him… — Lundy Bancroft Abused Woman Copy Share Image
“There certainly are some women who treat their male partners badly, berating them, calling them names, attempting to control them. The negative… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“THE MYTHS ABOUT ABUSERS 1. He was abused as a child. 2. His previous partner hurt him. 3. He abuses those he… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“In the 1890s, when Freud was in the dawn of his career, he was struck by how many of his female patients… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse Copy Share Image
“When a man starts my program, he often says, “I am here because I lose control of myself sometimes. I need to… — Lundy Bancroft Abuse-recovery Copy Share Image
