Abuse Quote by Lundy Bancroft
““The volatile, abusive, and sometimes dangerous reactions that abusers can have when relationships draw to a close have often been considered, especially by psychologists, to be evidence of the man’s “fear of abandonment.” But women have fears of abandonment that are just as great as men’s, yet they rarely stalk or kill their partners after a breakup. Not only that, but many abusers are vicious to their ex-partners even when they do not desire a reunion or when they initiated the breakup themselves.””
About This Quote
Abusers' fear of abandonment is often highlighted, yet women also experience this fear without resorting to extreme actions.
In simple terms: Both genders fear abandonment, but react differently.
Key Takeaway
Acknowledge fear without assuming violent outcomes.
Themes
abuse
fear
gender dynamics
Mood
concerned
hopeful
Type
psychological
educational
When to use this quote
- breakup counseling
- legal proceedings
- support groups
Key Concepts
psychology
relationship counseling
Questions to Reflect On
- How can we address abandonment fears healthily?
- What interventions reduce abusive reactions?
A Different Perspective
May underplay severity of abuse.
