Abuse Quote by Lundy Bancroft
““As I have explained in earlier chapters, abusiveness has little to do with psychological problems and everything to do with values and beliefs. Where do a boy’s values about partner relationships come from? The sources are many. The most important ones include the family he grows up in, his neighborhood, the television he watches and books he reads, jokes he hears, messages that he receives from the toys he is given, and his most influential adult role models. His role models are important not just for which behaviors they exhibit to the boy but also for which values they teach him in words and what expectations they instill in him for the future. In sum, a boy’s values develop from the full range of his experiences within his culture.””
About This Quote
Source Book: "The New Male Sexuality" by Lundy Bancroft, 2009
Values about relationships are formed from a boy’s cultural environment, including family, media, and role models.
In simple terms: Boy’s relationship values come from culture and experiences.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and shape positive influences early.
Themes
values
culture
socialization
gender
relationships
Mood
reflective
concerned
Type
educational
analytical
When to use this quote
- parenting
- education
- media consumption
- peer influence
- community programs
Key Concepts
social learning
norm transmission
identity formation
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you assess which cultural messages are healthy?
- What role can schools play in reinforcing positive values?
A Different Perspective
Values can be conflicted by contradictory messages from different sources.
