“More than anything, we have lost the cultural customs and traditions that bring extended families together, linking adults and children in caring… — Gabor Maté Change Copy Share Image
“The first reason why peer-oriented children have to harden emotionally is that they have lost their natural source of power and self-confidence… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“Being cut off from our own natural self-compassion is one of the greatest impairments we can suffer. Along with our ability to… — Gabor Maté Compassion Copy Share Image
“Environmental influences also affect dopamine. From animal studies, we know that social stimulation is necessary for the growth of the nerve endings… — Gabor Maté Emotional stress Copy Share Image
“Peer-oriented young people thus face two grave psychological risks that more than suffice to make vulnerability unbearable and provoke their brains into… — Gabor Maté Cold water Copy Share Image
“Maturation in the psychological realm involves the differentiation of the elements of consciousness — thoughts, feelings, impulses, values, opinions, preferences, interests, intentions,… — Gabor Maté Maturation Copy Share Image
“The indispensable foundation of a rational stance toward drug addiction would be the decriminalization of all substance dependence and the provision of… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“In response to the intensifying cruelty of children to one another, schools all over this continent are rushing to design programs to… — Gabor Maté Barking up the wrong tree Copy Share Image
“Opiates don't only relieve physical pain, they also relieve emotional pain. It turns out that the same part of the brain that… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“Human beings want not only to survive, but also to live. We long to experience life in all its vividness, with full,… — Gabor Maté Addict Copy Share Image
“All the substances that are the main drugs of abuse today originate in natural plant products and have been known to human… — Gabor Maté Cocaine Copy Share Image
“In Tuesdays with Morrie, Mitch Albom reports that Morrie Schwartz, his former professor terminally ill with ALS, “was intent on proving that… — Gabor Maté Death Copy Share Image
“Our failure to keep our children attached to us and to the other adults responsible for them has not only taken away… — Gabor Maté Around the world Copy Share Image
“The greatest damage done by neglect, trauma or emotional loss is not the immediate pain they inflict but the long-term distortions they… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“No society can understand itself without looking at its shadow side. I believe there is one addiction process, whether it is manifested… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“It may seem paradoxical to claim that stress, a physiological mechanism vital to life, is a cause of illness. To resolve this… — Gabor Maté Blood pressure Copy Share Image
“The physiology of human beings is very much affected by the environment and that's what may be called and I refer to… — Gabor Maté Birth and death Copy Share Image
“We sometimes find it easier to feel bitterness or rage than to allow ourselves to experience that aching desire for contact that,… — Gabor Maté Anger Copy Share Image
“The separation of mind and body that informs medical practice is also the dominant ideology in our culture. We do not often… — Gabor Maté American society Copy Share Image
“The addict’s reliance on the drug to reawaken her dulled feelings is no adolescent caprice. The dullness is itself a consequence of… — Gabor Maté Conscious awareness Copy Share Image
“Parental efforts to gain leverage generally take two forms: bribery or coercion. If a simple direction such as “I'd like you to… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“The mainstream view of addiction in North America is that it's a choice, it's an ethical lapse, it's a bad decision, it's… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“Just as an adult-oriented child is more vulnerable in relationship to his parents and teachers, peer-oriented kids are more so in relationship… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“For purposes of child-rearing, the crowning achievement of a working attachment is to instill in a child the desire to be good.… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“attachment is the first priority of living things. It is only when there is some release from this preoccupation that maturation can… — Gabor Maté Bearing fruit Copy Share Image
“Intuitively we all know that it is better to feel than to not feel. Our emotions are not a luxury but an… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“Like addiction itself, anxiety will always find a target, but exists independently of its targets. Only when we become aware of it… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“The culture generated by peer-orientation is sterile in the strict sense of that word: it is unable to reproduce itself or to… — Gabor Maté Culture Copy Share Image
“Parenting, in short, is a dance of the generations. Whatever affected one generation but has not been fully resolved will be passed… — Gabor Maté Family history Copy Share Image
“To expect an addict to give up her drug is like asking the average person to imagine living without all her social… — Gabor Maté Addict Copy Share Image
“Despite the best efforts of many physicians, Mary died in Vancouver Hospital eight years after her diagnosis, succumbing to the complications of… — Gabor Maté Little Sisters Copy Share Image
“The war mentality represents an unfortunate confluence of ignorance, fear, prejudice, and profit. ... The ignorance exists in its own right and… — Gabor Maté Fear Copy Share Image
“Society would have much to gain from decriminalization. On the immediate practical level, we would feel safer in our homes and on… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“Since having a strong core self relies on acceptance of feelings, being out of touch with the emotional side puts a person… — Gabor Maté Identity Copy Share Image
“And then there’s physical dependence. As defined in medical terms, physical dependence is manifested when a person stops taking a substance and,… — Gabor Maté Aches and pains Copy Share Image
“No organism in nature is separate from the system in which it lives, functions and dies, and no natural process can be… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“It is easy to misinterpret the child's counterwill as a drive for power. We may never be fully in control of our… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“When we first went to Provence, I assumed I would be observing a different culture. With attachment in mind, it became obvious… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“There were six thousand violent incidents reported by the New York City school board in 1993 compared with one single violent incident… — Gabor Maté Aggression Copy Share Image
“The transmission of culture assures the survival of the particular forms given to our existence and expression as human beings. It goes… — Gabor Maté Blind obedience Copy Share Image
