“If development unfolds optimally and the child makes headway in becoming her own person, the need for attachment wanes. As it does,… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“The primary culprit is assumed to be peer rejection: shunning, exclusion, shaming, taunting, mocking, bullying. The conclusion reached by some experts is… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“Peer-oriented kids are repelled by similarity to their parents and want to be as different as possible from them. Since sameness means… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“Despite the intervening six decades of scientific inquiry since Selye’s groundbreaking work, the physiological impact of the emotions is still far from… — Gabor Maté Early childhood Copy Share Image
“When a child becomes so attached to her peers that she would rather be with them and be like them, those peers,… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“Human infants are born with no capability whatsoever to hide or suppress any feeling, be it hunger, fear, discomfort or pain. Healthy… — Gabor Maté Anger Copy Share Image
“Like stress, emotion is a concept we often invoke without a precise sense of its meaning. And, like stress, emotions have several… — Gabor Maté Abusive relationship Copy Share Image
“We have seen that the individual’s brain circuits are decisively influenced by the emotional states of the parents, in the context of… — Gabor Maté Community Copy Share Image
“More than anything, we have lost the cultural customs and traditions that bring extended families together, linking adults and children in caring… — Gabor Maté Change Copy Share Image
“First, we need to take stock of ourselves and give up any hint of moral superiority and judgment toward the addict. Judging… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“Our failure to keep our children attached to us and to the other adults responsible for them has not only taken away… — Gabor Maté Around the world Copy Share Image
“Tactile contact is the newborn’s earliest experience of the world. It is how we first receive love. Mammalian mothers invariably provide tactile… — Gabor Maté Love Copy Share Image
“The first step in retracing our way to health is to abandon our attachment to what is called positive thinking. Too many… — Gabor Maté Confidence Copy Share Image
“Reactions can be gratifyingly mature at one time but distressingly immature at another. If some deeply unconscious anxiety is triggered, a person… — Gabor Maté Anger Copy Share Image
“There's a real waning of human contact and increasing alienation. The more friends you have on Facebook, the more alone you are.… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“The experience of stress has three components. The first is the event, physical or emotional, that the organism interprets as threatening. This… — Gabor Maté Digestive system Copy Share Image
“Parenting, in short, is a dance of the generations. Whatever affected one generation but has not been fully resolved will be passed… — Gabor Maté Family history Copy Share Image
“Since having a strong core self relies on acceptance of feelings, being out of touch with the emotional side puts a person… — Gabor Maté Identity Copy Share Image
“There are a small number of debilitating conditions with a strong genetic basis, such as muscular dystrophy or Huntington’s disease. These are… — Gabor Maté Depression Copy Share Image
In the real world there is no nature vs. nurture argument, only an infinitely complex and moment-by-moment interaction between genetic and environmental… — Gabor Mate Argument Copy Share Image
“The psychoanalyst Erik H. Erikson devoted a chapter in his Pulitzer Prize—winning book, Childhood and Society, to his reflections on the American… — Gabor Maté American identity Copy Share Image
“The power to parent will be transferred to whomever the child depends on, whether or not that person is truly dependable, appropriate,… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“The attachment voids experienced by immigrant children are profound. The hardworking parents are focused on supporting their families economically and, unfamiliar with… — Gabor Maté American society Copy Share Image
“Parental efforts to gain leverage generally take two forms: bribery or coercion. If a simple direction such as “I'd like you to… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
