The difference between passion and addiction is that between a divine spark and a flame that incinerates. — Gabor Mate Addiction Copy Share Image
We may not be responsible for the world that created our minds, but we can take responsibility for the mind with which… — Gabor Mate Being responsible Copy Share Image
... While nervous tension may be a component of stress, one can be stressed without feeling tension. — Gabor Mate Components Copy Share Image
“Being untempered — unable to tolerate mixed feelings at the same time — is the hallmark of the immature.” — Gabor Maté Immature Copy Share Image
“One effect of peer orientation is that the love and nurturance we have for our children cannot get through.” — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“Those whom we dismiss as “junkies” are not creatures from a different world, only men and women mired at the extreme end… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“When we focus narrowly on what we should be doing, we become blind to our attachment relationship with our children and its… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“Couples choose each other with an unerring instinct for finding the very person who will exactly match their own level of unconscious… — Gabor Maté Couples Copy Share Image
“The most important finding of research into a genetic role for alcoholism is that there is no such thing as a gene… — Gabor Maté Gene Alcoholism Copy Share Image
“Strong convictions do not necessarily signal a powerful sense of self: very often quite the opposite. Intensely held beliefs may be no… — Gabor Maté Faith Copy Share Image
“What we call the personality is often a jumble of genuine traits and adopted coping styles that do not reflect our true… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“Environment does not cause ADD any more than genes cause ADD. What happens is that if certain genetic material meets a certain… — Gabor Maté Evolution Copy Share Image
“Without attachment, the parent succeeds at most in cowing a child into obedience, at the price of grave damage to the relationship… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
Medical thinking usually sees stress as highly disturbing but isolated events such as, for example, sudden unemployment, a marriage breakup, or the… — Gabor Mate Breakup Copy Share Image
A long-term substance abuser, a few months before his death, penned this poem: Went downtown, Hastings and Main, looking for relief from… — Gabor Mate Abusers Copy Share Image
“The body’s hormonal system is inextricably linked with the brain centres where emotions are experienced and interpreted. In turn, the hormonal apparatus… — Gabor Maté Immune system Copy Share Image
“Above everything Ralph aches for unity with the external feminine caritas - blessed, soul-saving, divine love. Divine here refers to not a… — Gabor Maté Divine Copy Share Image
“Many adults have not attained maturity — have not mastered being independent, self-motivated individuals capable of tending their own emotional needs and… — Gabor Maté Aging Copy Share Image
“Misplaced attachment to what cannot satiate the soul is not an error exclusive to addicts, but the common condition of mankind. It… — Gabor Maté Addicts Copy Share Image
“Attachment is our connection with the world. In the earliest attachment relationships, we gain or lose the ability to stay open, self-nurturing… — Gabor Maté Attachment Copy Share Image
“What [my patients] care about is my presence or absence as a human being. They gauge with unerring eye whether I am… — Gabor Maté Addiction-and-recovery Copy Share Image
“Why do we despise, ostracize and punish the drug addict when as a social collective we share the same blindness and engage… — Gabor Maté Addict Copy Share Image
“Every day in the United States about 130 people die of overdoses. Which is to say that every month you have the… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“Beauty Junkies is the title of a recent book by New York Times writer Alex Kuczynski, “a self-confessed recovering addict of cosmetic… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“The loquaciousness of many children with ADD is notorious. One Grade 2 boy was called Talk Bird by his classmates, so incessant… — Gabor Maté Chatter Copy Share Image
“Even without world wars, revolutions and emigration, siblings growing up in the same home almost never share the same environment. More accurately,… — Gabor Maté Body language Copy Share Image
“Attachment divides the child's world into those the child likes and those the child is indifferent to, those who attract and those… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“The difference between passion and addiction is that between a divine spark and a flame that incinerates. Passion is divine fire: it… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“It is easy to blame television or the movies or rap music for desensitizing our children to human suffering, to violence, and… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“The mind emanates from the interface between neurophysiological processes and interpersonal relationships. Experience selectively shapes genetic neuronal potential and thus directly influences… — Gabor Maté Mind Copy Share Image
“Counterwill is an instinctive, automatic resistance to any sense of being forced. It is triggered whenever a person feels controlled or pressured… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
In the real world there is no nature vs. nurture argument, only an infinitely complex and moment-by-moment interaction between genetic and environmental… — Gabor Mate Argument Copy Share Image
“Shame is the deepest of the “negative emotions,” a feeling we will do almost anything to avoid. Unfortunately, our abiding fear of… — Gabor Maté Fear Copy Share Image
“Dismissing addictions as “bad habits” or “self-destructive behaviour” comfortably hides their functionality in the life of the addict. It is impossible to… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“As parents who make every effort we can to raise our children in loving security, we do not need to feel more… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“Do I live my life according to my own deepest truths, or in order to fulfill someone else’s expectations? How much of… — Gabor Maté Faith Copy Share Image
“When a child becomes so attached to her peers that she would rather be with them and be like them, those peers,… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“North American society tries to bury many problems under tons of medications, preferring to ignore the social and cultural causes of people’s… — Gabor Maté American society Copy Share Image
“We see that substance addictions are only one specific form of blind attachment to harmful ways of being, yet we condemn the… — Gabor Maté Addict Copy Share Image
“We have seen that the individual’s brain circuits are decisively influenced by the emotional states of the parents, in the context of… — Gabor Maté Community Copy Share Image
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