“So what you've actually got is traumatized children. When children are traumatized that affects how they feel about themselves, which is deeply… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“The obvious alternative to blaming the parent is to conclude that there is something amiss or lacking in the child. If we… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“All the substances that are the main drugs of abuse today originate in natural plant products and have been known to human… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Virtually all the authors of popular books on the subject assert that ADD is a heritable genetic disorder. With some notable exceptions,… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“We have seen that the individual’s brain circuits are decisively influenced by the emotional states of the parents, in the context of… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“The only reason for a child not to be aware of his own vulnerability is that it has become too much to… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“The human brain is the most complex entity in the universe. It has between fifty and one hundred billion nerve cells, or… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“A dramatic illustration of how environment shapes personality is the story of the Gilmore family. On January 17, 1978, in Utah, the… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Interactions with the world program our physiological and psychological development. Emotional contact is as important as physical contact. The two are quite… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“In the cloudy swirl of misleading ideas surrounding public discussion of addiction, there’s one that stands out: the misconception that drug taking… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“As parents who make every effort we can to raise our children in loving security, we do not need to feel more guilt than… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“The fact is, we in this society are often quite removed from our own emotional reality.” — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Shame is the deepest of the “negative emotions,” a feeling we will do almost anything to avoid. Unfortunately, our abiding fear of shame impairs… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Many adults have not attained maturity — have not mastered being independent, self-motivated individuals capable of tending their own emotional needs and of respecting… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“If a mother has eight children, there are eight mothers. This is not simply because of the fact that the mother was different in… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Without attachment, the parent succeeds at most in cowing a child into obedience, at the price of grave damage to the relationship and to… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Attachment is our connection with the world. In the earliest attachment relationships, we gain or lose the ability to stay open, self-nurturing and healthy.… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“So what you've actually got is traumatized children. When children are traumatized that affects how they feel about themselves, which is deeply ashamed because… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Even without world wars, revolutions and emigration, siblings growing up in the same home almost never share the same environment. More accurately, brothers and… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“We think that there are people who are normal over here, and then there’s the pathological ones who have depression, anxiety, addiction or schizophrenia… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“One cannot get much more vulnerable than to expose oneself psychologically. To share oneself with another and then be misunderstood or rejected is, for… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
