“Emotions also directly modulate the immune system. Studies at the U.S. National Cancer Institute found that natural killer (NK) cells, an important… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Physiological stress, then, is the link between personality traits and disease. Certain traits — otherwise known as coping styles — magnify the… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“The salient stressors in the lives of most human beings today — at least in the industrialized world — are emotional. Just… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Nature’s ultimate goal is to foster the growth of the individual from absolute dependence to independence — or, more exactly, to the… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
Medical thinking usually sees stress as highly disturbing but isolated events such as, for example, sudden unemployment, a marriage breakup, or the… — Gabor Mate Copy Share Image
“Despite the intervening six decades of scientific inquiry since Selye’s groundbreaking work, the physiological impact of the emotions is still far from… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“The experience of stress has three components. The first is the event, physical or emotional, that the organism interprets as threatening. This… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“The traditional hospital practice of excluding parents ignored the importance of attachment relationships as regulators of the child’s emotions, behaviour and physiology.… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“It may seem paradoxical to claim that stress, a physiological mechanism vital to life, is a cause of illness. To resolve this… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“The oft-observed relationship between stress, impaired immunity and illness has given rise to the concept of “diseases of adaptation,” a phrase of… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“While all of us dread being blamed, we all would wish to be more responsible—that is, to have the ability to respond… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Our immune system does not exist in isolation from daily experience. For example, the immune defences that normally function in healthy young… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Many of us live, if not alone, then in emotionally inadequate relationships that do not recognize or honour our deepest needs. Isolation… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
... While nervous tension may be a component of stress, one can be stressed without feeling tension. — Gabor Mate Copy Share Image
“Social support helps to ameliorate physiological stress. The close links between health and the social environment have been amply demonstrated. In the… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“The first reason why peer-oriented children have to harden emotionally is that they have lost their natural source of power and self-confidence… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
A hurt is at the center of all addictive behaviors. . . . The wound may not be as deep and the… — Gabor Mate Copy Share Image
“Central to any understanding of stress, health and disease is the concept of adaptiveness. Adaptiveness is the capacity to respond to external… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Interactions with the world program our physiological and psychological development. Emotional contact is as important as physical contact. The two are quite… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Emotional competence requires the capacity to feel our emotions, so that we are aware when we are experiencing stress; the ability to… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Selye discovered that the biology of stress predominantly affected three types of tissues or organs in the body: in the hormonal system,… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“As parents who make every effort we can to raise our children in loving security, we do not need to feel more guilt than… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“The fact is, we in this society are often quite removed from our own emotional reality.” — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Shame is the deepest of the “negative emotions,” a feeling we will do almost anything to avoid. Unfortunately, our abiding fear of shame impairs… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Many adults have not attained maturity — have not mastered being independent, self-motivated individuals capable of tending their own emotional needs and of respecting… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“If a mother has eight children, there are eight mothers. This is not simply because of the fact that the mother was different in… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Without attachment, the parent succeeds at most in cowing a child into obedience, at the price of grave damage to the relationship and to… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Attachment is our connection with the world. In the earliest attachment relationships, we gain or lose the ability to stay open, self-nurturing and healthy.… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“So what you've actually got is traumatized children. When children are traumatized that affects how they feel about themselves, which is deeply ashamed because… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“Even without world wars, revolutions and emigration, siblings growing up in the same home almost never share the same environment. More accurately, brothers and… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“We think that there are people who are normal over here, and then there’s the pathological ones who have depression, anxiety, addiction or schizophrenia… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
“One cannot get much more vulnerable than to expose oneself psychologically. To share oneself with another and then be misunderstood or rejected is, for… — Gabor Maté Copy Share Image
