“There is yet another reason why peer-oriented kids are insatiable. In order to reach the turning point, a child must not only… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“If you start with the idea that addiction isn’t a primary disease, but an attempt to solve a problem, then you soon… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“As with all mammals and many other animals, it was simply the natural order of things that the innate attachment drive itself… — Gabor Maté Aging Copy Share Image
“Far more than a quest for pleasure, chronic substance use is the addict’s attempt to escape distress. From a medical point of… — Gabor Maté Addict Copy Share Image
“A therapist once said to me, “If you face the choice between feeling guilt and resentment, choose the guilt every time.” It… — Gabor Maté Anger Copy Share Image
“Virtually all the authors of popular books on the subject assert that ADD is a heritable genetic disorder. With some notable exceptions,… — Gabor Maté Books Copy Share Image
“We think that there are people who are normal over here, and then there’s the pathological ones who have depression, anxiety, addiction… — Gabor Maté Bipolar disorder Copy Share Image
“A genetic fundamentalism permeates public awareness these days. It may be summed up as the belief that almost every illness and every… — Gabor Maté Evolution Copy Share Image
“Interactions with the world program our physiological and psychological development. Emotional contact is as important as physical contact. The two are quite… — Gabor Maté Autoimmune disease Copy Share Image
“All addictions — whether to drugs or to nondrug behaviours — share the same brain circuits and brain chemicals. On the biochemical… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“Genes can be activated or turned off by factors in the environment. In the Cree population of northwestern Ontario, for example, diabetes… — Gabor Maté Attention deficit disorder Copy Share Image
“Social support helps to ameliorate physiological stress. The close links between health and the social environment have been amply demonstrated. In the… — Gabor Maté Health Copy Share Image
“Tactile contact is the newborn’s earliest experience of the world. It is how we first receive love. Mammalian mothers invariably provide tactile… — Gabor Maté Love Copy Share Image
“The only reason for a child not to be aware of his own vulnerability is that it has become too much to… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“The contrasts between traditional multigenerational cultures and today's North American society are striking. In modern urbanized North America — and in other… — Gabor Maté American society Copy Share Image
“Vulnerability is usually attacked, not with fists but with shaming. Many children learn quickly to cover up any signs of weakness, sensitivity,… — Gabor Maté Best friend Copy Share Image
“A dramatic illustration of how environment shapes personality is the story of the Gilmore family. On January 17, 1978, in Utah, the… — Gabor Maté Death sentence Copy Share Image
“The first step in retracing our way to health is to abandon our attachment to what is called positive thinking. Too many… — Gabor Maté Confidence Copy Share Image
“When we feel frustrated, our first inclination is to change whatever isn't working for us. We can try to accomplish this by… — Gabor Maté Change things Copy Share Image
“Nowadays it often takes two parents working full-time to secure the same standard of living one wage earner could provide thirty or… — Gabor Maté Best intentions Copy Share Image
“While we cannot say that any personality type causes cancer, certain personality features definitely increase the risk because they are more likely… — Gabor Maté Cancer Copy Share Image
“What characterizes an addiction?” asks the spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle. “Quite simply this: you no longer feel that you have the power… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“Physiological stress, then, is the link between personality traits and disease. Certain traits — otherwise known as coping styles — magnify the… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“What happens when insatiability dominates a person's emotional functioning? The process of maturation is preempted by an obsession or an addiction, in… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“Materialism is, really, a system of belief or behavior which considers material things and in particular the control and possession of material… — Gabor Maté Climate change Copy Share Image
“I see so many situations where a child is in the midst of plenty, a virtual banquet spread out before him, but… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“There's a psychologist called Mary & Diamond who at Brooklyn in California, in the 80s studied rats. And they took rats at… — Gabor Maté Brain damage Copy Share Image
“Some parents resist the idea of ADD for fear of seeing their children labeled and categorized. They do not like the idea… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“The addict is re-traumatized over and over again by ostracism, harassment, dire poverty, the spread of disease, the frantic hunt for a… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“Music gives me a sense of self-sufficiency and nourishment. I don’t need anyone or anything. I bathe in it as in amniotic… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“There is a foolproof way to distinguish peer-distorted counterwill from the genuine drive for autonomy: the maturing, individuating child resists coercion whatever… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“Cancer and the autoimmune diseases of various sorts are, by and large, diseases of civilization. While industrialized society organized along the capitalist… — Gabor Maté Autoimmune disease Copy Share Image
“So what you've actually got is traumatized children. When children are traumatized that affects how they feel about themselves, which is deeply… — Gabor Maté Bad people Copy Share Image
“There is a significant hereditary contribution to ADD but I do not believe any genetic factor is decisive in the emergence of… — Gabor Maté Biology Copy Share Image
“Young children cannot possibly understand the motives of adults. It means little to a young child that the parent feels love for… — Gabor Maté Abandonment Copy Share Image
“Central to any understanding of stress, health and disease is the concept of adaptiveness. Adaptiveness is the capacity to respond to external… — Gabor Maté Depression Copy Share Image
“One of the greatest difficulties we human beings seem to have is to relinquish long-held ideas. Many of us are addicted to… — Gabor Maté Addict Copy Share Image
“Although a youth culture was in evidence by the 1950s, the first obvious and dramatic manifestation of a culture generated by peer-orientation… — Gabor Maté Aging Copy Share Image
“Cocaine exerts its euphoric effect by increasing the availability of the reward chemical dopamine in key brain circuits, and this is necessary… — Gabor Maté Dopamine Copy Share Image
“Also bearing witness to the unbearable nature of the vulnerability experienced by peer-oriented kids is the preponderance of vulnerability-quelling drugs. Peer-oriented kids… — Gabor Maté Bearing witness Copy Share Image
