American society Quote by Gabor Maté
““The contrasts between traditional multigenerational cultures and today's North American society are striking. In modern urbanized North America — and in other industrialized countries where the American way of life has become the norm — children find themselves in attachment voids everywhere, situations in which they lack consistent and deep connection with nurturing adults. There are many factors promoting this trend. One result of economic changes since the Second World War is that children are placed early, sometimes soon after birth, in situations where they spend much of the day in one another's company. Most of their contact is with other children, not with the significant adults in their lives. They spend much less time bonding with parents and adults. As they grow older, the process only accelerates. Society has generated economic pressure for both parents to work outside the home when children are very young, but it has made little provision for the satisfaction of children's needs for emotional nourishment. Surprising though it may seem, early childhood educators, teachers, and psychologists — to say nothing of physicians and psychiatrists—are seldom taught about attachment.””
About This Quote
Source Book: In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Maté, 2008
Modern industrial societies often leave children lacking deep, consistent adult attachment due to economic pressures and early childcare structures.
In simple terms: Kids miss strong adult bonds because of work and childcare trends.
Prioritize intentional adult‑child connection.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- parenting
- early education
- work‑family balance
- community programs
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How can workplaces support parental presence?
- What community resources can fill attachment gaps?
Not all families lack attachment; some cultures maintain strong bonds despite similar pressures.