Daniel J. Siegel

“parenting matters, even to the extent of influencing our inborn and genetically shaped temperament.”

— Daniel J. Siegel

“Too often we forget that “discipline” really means “to teach”—not “to punish.”

— Daniel J. Siegel

Mindfulness has never met a cognition it didn't like.

— Daniel J. Siegel

While the days of parenting may seem so long, the years are so short.

— Daniel J. Siegel

We are always in a perpetual state of being created and creating ourselves. (p. 221)

— Daniel J. Siegel

“Adolescence is not a period of being “crazy” or “immature.” It is an essential time of emotional intensity, social engagement, and creativity.”

— Daniel J. Siegel

“As Johann Wolfgang von Goethe wrote, “Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them become…

— Daniel J. Siegel

“between the two. Harmony emerges from integration. Chaos and rigidity arise when integration is blocked.”

— Daniel J. Siegel

Early experience shapes the structure and function of the brain. This reveals the fundamental way in which gene expression is determined by…

— Daniel J. Siegel

“Mindfulness exercises produce literal changes in the brain’s connections, significantly affecting how well a person interacts with other people and adapts to…

— Daniel J. Siegel

When we begin to know ourselves in an open and self-supportive way, we take the first step to encourage our children to…

— Daniel J. Siegel

Too often we forget that discipline really means to teach, not to punish. A disciple is a student, not a recipient of…

— Daniel J. Siegel

“...the changes during adolescence are not something to just get through; they are qualities we actually need to hold on to in…

— Daniel J. Siegel

“As children develop, their brains "mirror" their parent's brain. In other words, the parent's own growth and development, or lack of those,…

— Daniel J. Siegel

“A parent who recognizes an upstairs tantrum is left with one clear response: never negotiate with a terrorist. An upstairs tantrum calls…

— Daniel J. Siegel

“Yet when adults lose the four distinguishing features of adolescence, when they stop cultivating the power of novelty seeking, social engagement, emotional…

— Daniel J. Siegel

Interpersonal experience shapes the mind as it continues to develop throughout the lifespan... Interactions with the environment, especially relationships with other people,…

— Daniel J. Siegel

Wonderful!Hold Me Tight blends the best in research findings with practical suggestions from a caring and compassionate clinician. This fabulous book will…

— Daniel J. Siegel

We must keep in mind that only a part of memory can be translated into the language-based packets of information people use…

— Daniel J. Siegel

Each of us needs periods in which our minds can focus inwardly. Solitude is an essential experience for the mind to organize…

— Daniel J. Siegel

“Connection means that we give our kids our attention, that we respect them enough to listen to them, that we value their…

— Daniel J. Siegel

“Our dreams and stories may contain implicit aspects of our lives even without our awareness. In fact, storytelling may be a primary…

— Daniel J. Siegel

Recent studies of mindfulness practices reveal that they can result in profound improvements in a range of physiological, mental, and interpersonal domains…

— Daniel J. Siegel

“State integration involves linkage in at least three different dimensions of our lives. The first level of integration is between our different…

— Daniel J. Siegel

Internal mental experience is not the product of a photographic process. Internal reality is in fact constructed by the brain as it…

— Daniel J. Siegel

“parent who recognizes an upstairs tantrum is left with one clear response: never negotiate with a terrorist. An upstairs tantrum calls for…

— Daniel J. Siegel

“The research is really clear on this point. Kids who achieve the best outcomes in life—emotionally, relationally, and even educationally—have parents who…

— Daniel J. Siegel

“The busy lives people lead in the technologically driven culture that consumes our attention often produce a multitasking frenzy of activity that…

— Daniel J. Siegel

We now know that the way to help a child develop optimally is to help create connections in her brain—her whole brain—that…

— Daniel J. Siegel

For "full" emotional communication, one person needs to allow his state of mind to be influenced by that of the other.

— Daniel J. Siegel

“An important take-home message is that it is vital to keep the lines of connection and communication open and to remember that…

— Daniel J. Siegel

“Children are much more apt to share and talk while building something, playing cards, or riding in the car than when you…

— Daniel J. Siegel

The amygdala, along with related areas..., plays a crucial role in coordinating perceptions with memory and behavior. These regions are especially sensitive…

— Daniel J. Siegel

“What this means is reflecting on your relationships in the past in your own family life and asking yourself how those experiences…

— Daniel J. Siegel

“if we use how we were taught yesterday to teach our children today, we are not preparing them well for tomorrow.”

— Daniel J. Siegel

“The best predictor of a child's security of attachment is not what happened to his parents as children, but rather how his…

— Daniel J. Siegel

“The downstairs state of reactivity doesn’t know what to do with a lot of upstairs words. Often, in moments of reactivity, nonverbals…

— Daniel J. Siegel

...not all encounters with the world affect the mind equally. Studies have demonstrated that if the brain appraises an event as "meaningful,"…

— Daniel J. Siegel

“the behaviors and skills we want and expect our kids to demonstrate, like sound decision making, control of their emotions and bodies,…

— Daniel J. Siegel

The number of possible "on-off" patterns of neuronal firing is immense, estimated as a staggering ten times ten one million times (ten…

— Daniel J. Siegel