Blind obedience Quote by Gabor Maté
““The transmission of culture assures the survival of the particular forms given to our existence and expression as human beings. It goes much beyond our customs and traditions and symbols to include how we express ourselves in gestures and language, the way we adorn ourselves in dress and decoration, what and how and when we celebrate. Culture also defines our rituals around contact and connection, greetings and good-byes, belonging and loyalty, love and intimacy. Central to any culture is its food — how food is prepared and eaten, the attitudes toward food, and the functions food serves. The music people make and the music they listen to is an integral part of any culture. The transmission of culture is, normally, an automatic part of child-rearing. In addition to facilitating dependence, shielding against external stress, and giving birth to independence, attachment also is the conduit of culture. As long as the child is properly attaching to the adults responsible, the culture flows into the child. To put it another way, the attaching child becomes spontaneously informed, in the sense of absorbing the cultural forms of the adult. According to Howard Gardner, a leading American developmentalist, more is spontaneously absorbed from the parents in the first four years of life than during all the rest of a person's formal education put together. When attachment is working, the transmission of culture does not require deliberate instruction or teaching on the part of the adult or even conscious learning on the part of the child. The child's hunger for connection and inclination to seek cues from adults take care of it. If the child is helped to attain genuine individuality and a mature independence of mind, the passing down of culture from one generation to another is not a process of mindless imitation or blind obedience.””
About This Quote
Source Book: In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, Gabor Maté, 2008
Culture is passed to children through attachment, not formal teaching, shaping identity, rituals, and values.
In simple terms: Culture spreads via close bonds, not lessons.
Foster secure attachments to nurture cultural continuity.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- parenting
- early childhood education
- intergenerational traditions
- community rituals
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How does secure attachment influence cultural identity?
- What role do rituals play in cultural continuity?
If attachment is insecure, cultural transmission may be distorted or resisted.