We judge people in areas where we're vulnerable to shame, especially picking folks who are doing worse than we're doing. — Brene Brown Copy Share Image
When perfectionism is driving us, shame is riding shotgun and fear is that annoying backseat driver! — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change. — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It's the fear that we're not good enough. — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
We cannot grow when we are in shame, and we can't use shame to change ourselves or others. — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“To know shame is to be human. And to have the capacity for empathy is also to be human.” — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
I've learned a lot since I was a new mother. My approach to struggle and shame now is to talk to yourself… — Brene Brown Copy Share Image
I hesitate to use a pathologizing label, but underneath the so-called narcissistic personality is definitely shame and the paralyzing fear of being… — Brene Brown Copy Share Image
Shame works like the zoom lens on a camera. When we are feeling shame, the camera is zoomed in tight and all… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Ironically, parenting is a shame and judgment minefield precisely because most of us are wading through uncertainty and self-doubt when it comes… — Brene Brown Copy Share Image
My husband's a pediatrician, so he and I talk about parenting all the time. You can't raise children who have more shame… — Brene Brown Copy Share Image
Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly,… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Vulnerability is the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness, but it appears that it's also the birthplace of… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
If we share our shame story with the wrong person, they can easily become one more piece of flying debris in an… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“Dehumanizing and holding people accountable are mutually exclusive. Humiliation and dehumanizing are not accountability or social justice tools, they’re emotional off-loading at… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“There is a quiet transformation happening that is moving us from 'turning on each other' to 'turning toward each other.' Without question,… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
We live in a world where most people still subscribe to the belief that shame is a good tool for keeping people… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“When we hear stories about shame that don’t fit with our experiences, our first reaction is often to distance ourselves from the… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“The biggest potential for helping us overcome shame is this: We are “those people.” The truth is…we are the others. Most of… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“Here’s what’s interesting—especially for those who automatically think, You should feel like a terrible friend! or A little shame will help you… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“What’s the difference between shame and guilt? The majority of shame researchers and clinicians agree that the difference between shame and guilt… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“Knowing what I do now, I think about shame and worthiness in this way: 'It's the album, not the picture.' If you… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“What’s the difference between shame and guilt? The majority of shame researchers and clinicians agree that the difference between shame and guilt… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“According to Dr. Hartling, in order to deal with shame, some of us move away by withdrawing, hiding, silencing ourselves, and keeping… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“This is the shame of the woman whose hand hides her smile because her teeth are so bad, not the grand self-hate… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“I also see courage in myself when I'm willing to risk being vulnerable and disappointed. For many years, if I really wanted… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“In Jungian circles, shame is often referred to as the swampland of the soul. I’m not suggesting that we wade out into… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“When we apologize for something we’ve done, make amends, or change a behavior that doesn’t align with our values, guilt—not shame—is most… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“No. Shame and self-esteem are very different issues. We feel shame. We think self-esteem.” — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“Empathy heals shame; sympathy exacerbates shame. We don't want people to feel sorry for us; we want people to be with us.” — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“The way to fight shame and to honor who we are is by sharing our experience with someone who has earned the… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“always put off writing by reorganizing my entire house and spending way too much time and money buying office supplies and organizing systems. Every… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
I carry a small sheet of paper in my wallet that has written on it the names of people whose opinions of me matter.… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Waking up every day and loving someone who may or may not love us back, whose safety we can't ensure, who may stay in… — Brene Brown Copy Share Image
“No matter how separated we are by what we think and believe, we are part of the same spiritual story.” — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Perfectionism is self-destructive simply because there is no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unattainable goal. Additionally, perfectionism is more about perception -… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change. — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
If you're also in the arena and you're putting your ideas out and you're owning them and you're saying "I disagree with you about… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“I found that men and women with high levels of shame resilience share these four elements: They understand shame and recognize what messages and… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
