Marriage Quote by Brené Brown
““When we hear stories about shame that don’t fit with our experiences, our first reaction is often to distance ourselves from the experiences—“My mother would never say that” or “I don’t get women who don’t enjoy sex” or “She’s so naïve—her husband’s a wacko.” The distancing turns very quickly into blame, judgment and separation.””
About This Quote
Source Book: Daring Greatly, Brené Brown, 2012
When narratives about shame clash with personal experience, we often distance ourselves, which can quickly shift to blame and judgment.
In simple terms: People distance from shame stories, leading to blame.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and stay present with uncomfortable stories.
Themes
shame
psychology
empathy
Mood
reflective
empathetic
Type
psychological
insightful
When to use this quote
- therapy sessions
- group discussions
- personal reflection
Key Concepts
social cognition
defense mechanisms
Questions to Reflect On
- How does distancing protect you?
- What could you learn by staying engaged?
A Different Perspective
Distancing may prevent genuine understanding and healing.
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