The desire for romantic love in marriage is deeply rooted in our psychological makeup. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Many couples have never learned the tremendous power of verbally affirming each other. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Most people spend far more time in preparation for their vocation than they do in preparation for marriage. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Our spouse will usually interpret our message based on our tone of voice, not the words we use. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
What we do for each other before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
It was God's idea to make us male and female. And God's the one that instituted marriage. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“There is a third truth, which only the mature lover will be able to hear. My spouse’s criticisms about my behavior provide… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
In reality, relationships that are successful tend to take the attitude, 'How can I help you?' 'How can I enrich your life?'… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
At the heart of mankind's existence is the desire to be intimate and to be loved by another. Marriage is designed to… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The human race could not go on without reproduction, and marriage creates the most secure environment in which to raise children. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Learning the love language of acts of service will require some of us to reexamine our stereotypes of the roles of husbands… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I remember, in the early days of my marriage, I thought I married the wrong person. We held to our own ideas… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
This is a huge thing if you are going to have a positive impact on your spouse. You have to not only… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The fastest way to have a loving, supportive, understanding spouse is to become a loving, supportive, understanding spouse. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love. It… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I think the tingles are important. They are real, and I am in favor of their survival. But they are not the… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Make time every day to share with each other some of the events of the day. When you spend more time on… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse's perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
If I walk in the house, and I greet my wife, and I give her a hug, kiss her on the cheek,… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
On the other hand, if I walk in the house, I don't even bother to find her, I just walk in the… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Good marriages are built upon a combination of emotional love and a common commitment to a core of beliefs about what is… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The decision to get married will impact one's life more deeply than almost any decision in life. Yet people continue to rush… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Marriages are always moving from one season to another. Sometimes we find ourselves in winter--discouraged, detached, and dissatisfied; other times we experience… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“What would be workable for you?” is a good place to begin. Now we are focusing on resolution rather than differences. Two… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Andre didn’t make that connection at first. He worked hard—at the wrong tasks. And he failed to make a dent in his… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Being in love is an emotional and obsessive experience. However, emotions change and obsessions fade. Research indicates that the average life span… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Love doesn’t keep a score of wrongs. Love doesn’t bring up past failures. None of us is perfect. In marriage we do… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Once you identify and learn to speak your spouse’s primary love language, I believe that you will have discovered the key to… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“I would be delighted to wash dishes tonight,” said in a snarling tone will not be received as an expression of love.… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Love doesn't keep a score of wrongs. Love doesn't bring up past failures. None of us is perfect. In marriage we do… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Genuine forgiveness and reconciliation are two-person transactions that are enabled by apologies. Some, particularly within the Christian worldview, have taught forgiveness without… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Your words may give your spouse the courage necessary to take that first step.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
In marriage it is never having my own way. It is rather discovering our way. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Conflicts are not a sign you've married the wrong person. They simply affirm you are human. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
We are trained to analyze problems and create solutions. We forget that marriage is a relationship, not a project to be completed… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I think one of the myths is that people don't change. A lot of people believe that. Their spouse has been an… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“With enough criticism, you may get acquiescence from your spouse. He may do what you want, but probably it will not be… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Marriages are always moving from one season to another. Sometimes we find ourselves in winter--discouraged, detached, and dissatisfied; other times we experience springtime, with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
On the other hand, if I walk in the house, I don't even bother to find her, I just walk in the den and… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“I look for three things in hiring people. The first is personal integrity, the second is intelligence, and the third is a high energy… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I think that in today's world, by nature, we are all self-centered. And that often leads to selfishness. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Sometimes when the spouse is really the culprit, it is hard to admit what you consider your little failures, but if you are going… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“There is a third truth, which only the mature lover will be able to hear. My spouse’s criticisms about my behavior provide me with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The getting out part [of advise] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser is not… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I wrote this book [ Desperate Marriages] because of my own marriage. My wife and I struggled greatly in the early years of marriage.… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
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