Nobody has the power to make you miserable . . . unless you choose to give them that power. Choose to enjoy… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The in-love experience does not focus on our own growth or on the growth and development of the other person. Rather, it… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Typically, we get annoyed when our spouses complain. We get defensive. But, really, when your spouse complains, he or she is giving… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Togetherness has to do with focused attention. It is giving someone your undivided attention. As humans, we have a fundamental desire to… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
If I walk in the house, and I greet my wife, and I give her a hug, kiss her on the cheek,… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse's perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The decision to get married will impact one's life more deeply than almost any decision in life. Yet people continue to rush… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Respect begins with this attitude: "I acknowledge that you are a creature of extreme worth. God has endowed you with certain abilities… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Marriages are always moving from one season to another. Sometimes we find ourselves in winter--discouraged, detached, and dissatisfied; other times we experience springtime, with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
On the other hand, if I walk in the house, I don't even bother to find her, I just walk in the den and… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“I look for three things in hiring people. The first is personal integrity, the second is intelligence, and the third is a high energy… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I think that in today's world, by nature, we are all self-centered. And that often leads to selfishness. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Sometimes when the spouse is really the culprit, it is hard to admit what you consider your little failures, but if you are going… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“There is a third truth, which only the mature lover will be able to hear. My spouse’s criticisms about my behavior provide me with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The getting out part [of advise] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser is not… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I wrote this book [ Desperate Marriages] because of my own marriage. My wife and I struggled greatly in the early years of marriage.… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
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