Don't be a victim of the urgent. In the long run, much of what seems so pressing right now won't even matter.… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Over the long haul, many of those people [in a difficult marriage] will begin to reciprocate, because you are meeting a basic… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I think one of the other myths is that your environment determines your happiness. That if you are living with an alcoholic… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
If you are sitting on the couch with the TV off, and you are looking into each other's eyes and talking, that… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
For a long time, I have been wanting to write a book for singles that would help them in the dating process… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Once you identify and learn to speak your spouse’s primary love language, I believe that you will have discovered the key to… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Togetherness has to do with focused attention. It is giving someone your undivided attention. As humans, we have a fundamental desire to… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
We can certainly see contemporary examples of people who radically change. As long you believe your spouse will never change and you… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Marriages are always moving from one season to another. Sometimes we find ourselves in winter--discouraged, detached, and dissatisfied; other times we experience springtime, with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
On the other hand, if I walk in the house, I don't even bother to find her, I just walk in the den and… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“I look for three things in hiring people. The first is personal integrity, the second is intelligence, and the third is a high energy… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I think that in today's world, by nature, we are all self-centered. And that often leads to selfishness. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Sometimes when the spouse is really the culprit, it is hard to admit what you consider your little failures, but if you are going… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“There is a third truth, which only the mature lover will be able to hear. My spouse’s criticisms about my behavior provide me with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The getting out part [of advise] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser is not… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I wrote this book [ Desperate Marriages] because of my own marriage. My wife and I struggled greatly in the early years of marriage.… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
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