“Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Our spouse will usually interpret our message based on our tone of voice, not the words we use. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
If you want to improve a relationship, it's not that you demand your spouse to change. You have to ask, 'Where did… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I think one of the other myths is that your environment determines your happiness. That if you are living with an alcoholic… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Love makes requests, not demands. When I demand things from my spouse, I become a parent and she the child.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I think one of the myths is that people don't change. A lot of people believe that. Their spouse has been an… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“There is a third truth, which only the mature lover will be able to hear. My spouse’s criticisms about my behavior provide… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
This is a huge thing if you are going to have a positive impact on your spouse. You have to not only… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The fastest way to have a loving, supportive, understanding spouse is to become a loving, supportive, understanding spouse. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
We all desperately need love. If a spouse in a difficult marriage will learn the love language of that spouse, and they… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Instead of cursing the darkness, light a candle in your own heart. Say to God, “If you will give me a vision… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Sometimes when the spouse is really the culprit, it is hard to admit what you consider your little failures, but if you… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse's perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
What is emotional intimacy? It is that depp sense of being connected to one another. It is feeling loved, respected and appreciated,… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Your words may give your spouse the courage necessary to take that first step.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“With enough criticism, you may get acquiescence from your spouse. He may do what you want, but probably it will not be… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
We cannot rely on our native tongue if our spouse does not understand it. If we want them to feel the love… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
We can certainly see contemporary examples of people who radically change. As long you believe your spouse will never change and you… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love. It… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Once you identify and learn to speak your spouse’s primary love language, I believe that you will have discovered the key to… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Andre didn’t make that connection at first. He worked hard—at the wrong tasks. And he failed to make a dent in his… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Marriages are always moving from one season to another. Sometimes we find ourselves in winter--discouraged, detached, and dissatisfied; other times we experience springtime, with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
On the other hand, if I walk in the house, I don't even bother to find her, I just walk in the den and… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“I look for three things in hiring people. The first is personal integrity, the second is intelligence, and the third is a high energy… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I think that in today's world, by nature, we are all self-centered. And that often leads to selfishness. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Sometimes when the spouse is really the culprit, it is hard to admit what you consider your little failures, but if you are going… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“There is a third truth, which only the mature lover will be able to hear. My spouse’s criticisms about my behavior provide me with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The getting out part [of advise] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser is not… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I wrote this book [ Desperate Marriages] because of my own marriage. My wife and I struggled greatly in the early years of marriage.… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
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