“Quality conversation is quite different from the love language words of affirmation. Affirming words focus on what we are saying, whereas quality… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
When people respond too quickly, they often respond to the wrong issue. Listening helps us focus on the heart of the conflict.… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“We speak and understand best our native language. We feel most comfortable speaking that language. The more we use a secondary language,… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“If we speak only our primary language and encounter someone else who speaks only his or her primary language, which is different… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“In the heart of the teenager, love has to do with connection, acceptance, and nurture. Connection requires the physical presence of the… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“A relationship calls for sympathetic listening with a view to understanding the other person’s thoughts, feelings, and desires.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“I’m now much less of an asset to the company than I could be. I keep my head down and for self-preservation… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Marriages are always moving from one season to another. Sometimes we find ourselves in winter--discouraged, detached, and dissatisfied; other times we experience springtime, with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
On the other hand, if I walk in the house, I don't even bother to find her, I just walk in the den and… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“I look for three things in hiring people. The first is personal integrity, the second is intelligence, and the third is a high energy… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I think that in today's world, by nature, we are all self-centered. And that often leads to selfishness. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Sometimes when the spouse is really the culprit, it is hard to admit what you consider your little failures, but if you are going… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“There is a third truth, which only the mature lover will be able to hear. My spouse’s criticisms about my behavior provide me with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The getting out part [of advise] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser is not… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I wrote this book [ Desperate Marriages] because of my own marriage. My wife and I struggled greatly in the early years of marriage.… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image