Communication Quotes by Marshall B. Rosenberg

Avoid 'shoulding' on others and yourself!

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Always hear the 'Yes' in the 'No'.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Ask before offering advice or reassurance.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Never do anything that isn't play.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

All human actions are an attempt to meet needs.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

When we judge others we contribute to violence.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

We give empathy to others for our own benefit.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

A need is life seeking expression within us.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Judgments of others contribute to self-fulfilling prophecies.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Thinking based on who deserves what blocks compassionate communication.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

I don't think you can have an authentic connection when one person is diagnosing the other.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

NVC is a reminder; to focus our attention where we are most likely to get our needs met.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

We use NVC to evaluate ourselves in ways that engender growth rather than self-hatred.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Learning is too precious to be motivated by coercive tactics.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Enemy images are the main reason conflicts don't get resolved.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

As long as I think I 'should' do it, I'll resist it, even if I want very much to do it.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Any time you throw pain at a Jackal without a clear present request, within a millisecond he'll jump in.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

NVC suggests behind every action, however ineffective, tragic, violent, or abhorrent to us, is an attempt to meet a need.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Four D's of Disconnection: 1. Diagnosis (judgment, analysis, criticism, comparison); 2. Denial of Responsibility; 3. Demand; 4. 'Deserve' oriented language.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Never question the beauty of what you are saying because someone reacts with pain, judgment, criticism. It just means they have not…

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Unless we as social change agents come from a certain spirituality, we're likely to create more harm than good.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Our survival as a species depends on our ability to recognize that our well-being and the well-being of others are in fact…

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Interpretations, criticisms, diagnoses, and judgments of others are actually alienated expressions of our unmet needs.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

In these long-standing conflicts, I find that most cases it gets resolved in about twenty minutes after each side can tell me…

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Public education for some time has been heavily focused on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students. Life-Enriching Education is…

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

There are the two main reasons we don't get our needs met. First, we don't know how to express our needs to…

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

NVC is language, thoughts, communication skills and means of influence that serve my desire to do three things: 1) to liberate myself…

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

The objective of Nonviolent Communication is not to change people and their behavior in order to get our way: it is to…

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

I find that my cultural conditioning leads me to focus attention on places where I am unlikely to get what I want.…

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

If you have an image of someone cutting off a relationship, it's the cutting off that will lead to your suffering. If…

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

As NVC replaces our old patterns of defending, withdrawing or attacking in the face of judgment and criticism. We come to perceive…

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Some people use NVC to respond compassionately to themselves, some to create greater depth in their personal relationships, and still others to…

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

We never really know what we want until after we get it. If after we get it, it makes life more miserable,…

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

I'm going to show you a technology today which takes insults and criticisms out of the airwaves. (Marshall puts on giraffe ears)…

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Now, with regard to the people who have done things we call "terrorism," I'm confident they have been expressing their pain in…

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Any evaluation which implies rightness or wrongness is a tragic, suicidal expression of an unmet need. Tragic, first because it decreases our…

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Conflicts, even of long standing duration, can be resolved if we can just keep the flow of communication going in which people…

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Very often, the way love is defined, it does violence to both people. It almost makes them a slave to the other.…

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Every time I mess up is a chance to practice.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

Needs are the expression of life through us.

— Marshall B. Rosenberg