Asks Quote by Marshall B. Rosenberg
“We never really know what we want until after we get it. If after we get it, it makes life more miserable, we know that isn't what we wanted. If it makes our life wonderful, we know this is a strategy which will meet out need. That's why Paul Tillich, the theologian says we need to sin courageously. You ask for what you want, hoping to meet your needs. If you get it and it makes life worse, you learn that this isn't what I want.”
About This Quote
Source Book: "Nonviolent Communication", 2003
We discover true desires after experiencing outcomes; misaligned results teach us what we truly need.
In simple terms: We learn what we want by trying and reflecting.
Key Takeaway
Experiment, reflect, adjust desires.
Themes
self‑knowledge
desire
learning
Mood
introspective
curious
Type
philosophical
inspirational
When to use this quote
- career choices
- relationships
- personal goals
- spiritual practice
Key Concepts
psychology
decision making
Questions to Reflect On
- How do you differentiate between fleeting wants and deep needs?
- What steps help you reflect on outcomes?
A Different Perspective
Not all outcomes are clear indicators of desire.
