Eye opening Quote by Gary Chapman
““What would be workable for you?” is a good place to begin. Now we are focusing on resolution rather than differences. Two adults looking for a solution are likely to find one. Father, this question—What would be workable for you?—is eye opening. How often I waste time trying to convince my spouse that my way is right. Please help me instead to join with him or her in looking for a solution that works for both of us. Thank you for making us both unique.””
About This Quote
Source Book: The 5 Love Languages, Gary Chapman, 1992
Focus on mutual solutions rather than winning arguments, encouraging collaborative problem solving in relationships.
In simple terms: Seek workable solutions together.
Key Takeaway
Prioritize joint problem solving.
Themes
relationships
communication
conflict resolution
Mood
hopeful
reflective
Type
advice
inspirational
When to use this quote
- marriage counseling
- team projects
- family decisions
- workplace disputes
Key Concepts
collaboration
empathy
negotiation
Questions to Reflect On
- What can each partner contribute to a shared solution?
- How to ensure both voices are equally heard?
A Different Perspective
May overlook power imbalances that affect what is “workable”.
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