The decision to get married will impact one's life more deeply than almost any decision in life. Yet people continue to rush… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Typically, we get annoyed when our spouses complain. We get defensive. But, really, when your spouse complains, he or she is giving… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Third, one who is "in love" is not genuinely interested in fostering the personal growth of the other person. "If we have… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Before marriage, we are carried along by the force of the in-love obsession. After marriage, we revert to being the people we… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
In reality, relationships that are successful tend to take the attitude, 'How can I help you?' 'How can I enrich your life?'… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
This is a huge thing if you are going to have a positive impact on your spouse. You have to not only… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Most people spend far more time in preparation for their vocation than they do in preparation for marriage. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse's perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“The social institution of marriage is first and foremost a covenant relationship in which a man and a woman pledge themselves to… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“If I choose justice and seek to pay my spouse back or make her pay for her wrongdoing, I am making myself… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Every single day in a marriage, we influence each other. It is a matter of am I going to have a positive… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I think the tingles are important. They are real, and I am in favor of their survival. But they are not the… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The human race could not go on without reproduction, and marriage creates the most secure environment in which to raise children. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
This book [Desperate Marriages ] is really a book on how to be a positive change agent in a very, very difficult… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Emotions are our spontaneous response to life. We have these emotions, but if the emotion is a negative emotion, then I have… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I think another [myth] is that some marriages are just hopeless. This is a common thing I hear from people, "Well, I… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I hope the reader's sense that I am deeply empathetic with the pain of being in a desperate marriage, but I also… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
If I walk in the house, and I greet my wife, and I give her a hug, kiss her on the cheek,… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Over the long haul, many of those people [in a difficult marriage] will begin to reciprocate, because you are meeting a basic… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“I would like to make three other observations. First, they illustrate clearly that what we do for each other before marriage is… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Conflicts are not a sign you've married the wrong person. They simply affirm you are human. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I think one of the other myths is that your environment determines your happiness. That if you are living with an alcoholic… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Many couples have never learned the tremendous power of verbally affirming each other. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Very few alcoholics get into a treatment program until they are at the end of the rope, often when they feel like… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Marriages are always moving from one season to another. Sometimes we find ourselves in winter--discouraged, detached, and dissatisfied; other times we experience springtime, with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
On the other hand, if I walk in the house, I don't even bother to find her, I just walk in the den and… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“I look for three things in hiring people. The first is personal integrity, the second is intelligence, and the third is a high energy… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I think that in today's world, by nature, we are all self-centered. And that often leads to selfishness. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Sometimes when the spouse is really the culprit, it is hard to admit what you consider your little failures, but if you are going… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“There is a third truth, which only the mature lover will be able to hear. My spouse’s criticisms about my behavior provide me with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The getting out part [of advise] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser is not… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I wrote this book [ Desperate Marriages] because of my own marriage. My wife and I struggled greatly in the early years of marriage.… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
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