“Key Learning: Shame derives its power from being unspeakable. That’s why it loves perfectionists—we’re so easy to keep quiet. If” — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive. — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
If we want to live and love with our whole hearts, and if we want to engage with the world from a… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“The goal is to learn to recognize when we are experiencing shame quickly enough to prevent ourselves from lashing out at those… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
As a shame researcher, I know that the very best thing to do in the midst of a shame attack is totally… — Brene Brown Copy Share Image
If you put shame in a petri dish, it needs three ingredients to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence, and judgment. If you put… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“the culture of shame is driven by fear, blame and disconnection and it's often a powerful incubator for issues like perfectionism ,stereotyping,… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around it- it can't survive being… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
The truth is, I'm a storyteller. And it scares me, because my training as an academic is that the more accessible you… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Shame derives its power from being unspeakable...If we speak shame, it begins to wither. Just the way exposure to light was deadly… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“...research tells us that we judge people in areas where we're vulnerable to shame, especially picking folks who are doing worse than… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“Practice courage and reach out! We have to own our story and share it with someone who has earned the right to… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“The greatest gift of having done this work (the research and the personal work) is that I can recognize shame when it’s… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Our stories are not meant for everyone. Hearing them is a privilege, and we should always ask ourselves this before we share:… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
One of the things I did when I discovered this huge importance of being vulnerable is very happily moved away from the… — Brene Brown Copy Share Image
If we are going to find our way out of shame and back to each other, vulnerability is the path and courage… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“It is easy to see how quickly expectations become layered, competitive and conflicting. This is how the shame web works. We have… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“At the exact time that our society embraces shaming, blaming, judgment, and rejection, it also holds acceptance and belonging as immensely important.… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“Shame Resilience 101 Here are the first three things that you need to know about shame: We all have it. Shame is… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Guilt is just as powerful, but its influence is positive, while shame's is destructive. Shame erodes our courage and fuels disengagement. — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
When I look at narcissism through the vulnerability lens, I see the shame-based fear of being ordinary. I see the fear of… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
You cannot talk about race without talking about privilege. And when people start talking about privilege, they get paralyzed by shame. — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“In fact, all of us are very susceptible to having our humiliating experiences turn to shame, especially when the person who is… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“If we can find someone who has earned the right to hear our story, we need to tell it. Shame loses power… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“If we share our shame story with the wrong person, they can easily become one more piece of flying debris in an… — Brene Brown Copy Share Image
Shame cannot survive being spoken. It cannot tolerate having words wrapped around it. What it craves is secrecy, silence, and judgment. If… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“When shame becomes a management style, engagement dies. When failure is not an option we can forget about learning, creativity, and innovation .” — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Shame: We all have it. It's that gremlin that says 'I'm not enough.' Or, if you're feeling pretty confident,...'ooh, who do you… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Self-compassion is key because when we're able to be gentle with ourselves in the midst of shame, we're more likely to reach… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Men walk this tightrope where any sign of weakness illicits shame, and so they're afraid to make themselves vulnerable for fear of… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“Women most often experience shame as a web of layered, conflicting, and competing social-community expectations. The expectations dictate who we should be,… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“And if we all have shame, the good news is that we’re all capable of developing shame resilience. Shame resilience is the… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
We judge people in areas where we’re vulnerable to shame, especially picking folks who are doing worse than we’re doing. If I… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Squandering our gifts brings distress to our lives. As it turns out, it's not merely benign or 'too bad' if we don't… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“always put off writing by reorganizing my entire house and spending way too much time and money buying office supplies and organizing systems. Every… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
I carry a small sheet of paper in my wallet that has written on it the names of people whose opinions of me matter.… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Waking up every day and loving someone who may or may not love us back, whose safety we can't ensure, who may stay in… — Brene Brown Copy Share Image
“No matter how separated we are by what we think and believe, we are part of the same spiritual story.” — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Perfectionism is self-destructive simply because there is no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unattainable goal. Additionally, perfectionism is more about perception -… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change. — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
If you're also in the arena and you're putting your ideas out and you're owning them and you're saying "I disagree with you about… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
“I found that men and women with high levels of shame resilience share these four elements: They understand shame and recognize what messages and… — Brené Brown Copy Share Image
