Definite Quote by Dale Carnegie
“When we are not engaged in thinking about some definite problem, we usually spend about 95 percent of our time thinking about ourselves. Now, if we stop thinking about ourselves for a while and begin to think of the other person's good points, we won't have to resort to flattery so cheap and false that it can be spotted almost before it is out of the mouth.”
About This Quote
Source Book: How to Win Friends and Influence People, 1936
When idle, we focus on ourselves; shifting attention to others’ virtues reduces insincere flattery.
In simple terms: Thinking of others’ good points curbs cheap compliments.
Key Takeaway
Practice genuine appreciation of others.
Themes
self‑awareness
empathy
communication
integrity
Mood
reflective
encouraging
Type
self‑help
motivational
When to use this quote
- team meetings
- conflict resolution
- networking
- leadership coaching
Key Concepts
psychology of self‑focus
authentic praise
Questions to Reflect On
- What virtues do you admire in colleagues?
- How can you give sincere feedback without flattery?
A Different Perspective
Overemphasis on others can neglect self‑growth; balance is needed.
