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Inspirational Quote by Dale Carnegie

“I instantly saw something I admired no end. So while he was weighing my envelope, I remarked with enthusiasm: "I certainly wish I had your head of hair." He looked up, half-startled, his face beaming with smiles. "Well, it isn't as good as it used to be," he said modestly. I assured him that…” quote by Dale Carnegie
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““I instantly saw something I admired no end. So while he was weighing my envelope, I remarked with enthusiasm: "I certainly wish I had your head of hair." He looked up, half-startled, his face beaming with smiles. "Well, it isn't as good as it used to be," he said modestly. I assured him that although it might have lost some of its pristine glory, nevertheless it was still magnificent. He was immensely pleased. We carried on a pleasant little conversation and the last thing he said to me was: "Many people have admired my hair." I'll bet that person went out to lunch that day walking on air. I'll bet he went home that night and told his wife about it. I'll bet he looked in the mirror and said: "It is a beautiful head of hair." I told this story once in public and a man asked me afterwards: "'What did you want to get out of him?" What was I trying to get out of him!!! What was I trying to get out of him!!! If we are so contemptibly selfish that we can't radiate a little happiness and pass on a bit of honest appreciation without trying to get something out of the other person in return - if our souls are no bigger than sour crab apples, we shall meet with the failure we so richly deserve.””

Dale Carnegie

About This Quote

Source Book: How to Win Friends and Influence People, 1936

Seeking admiration without genuine appreciation leads to selfishness and personal failure.

In simple terms: True appreciation should be selfless, not transactional.

Key Takeaway

Practice sincere, selfless appreciation of others.

Themes

relationships self‑awareness humility gratitude

Mood

inspirational reflective motivational

Type

self‑help psychology

When to use this quote

  • team building
  • ment counseling
  • public speaking
  • ment mentorship

Key Concepts

empathy social interaction personal growth

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can we ensure our praise is authentic?
  • What habits foster genuine gratitude?
A Different Perspective

May be difficult to avoid hidden motives in social interactions.

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