Mind and heart Quote by Bessel A. van der Kolk
““The roots of resilience . . . are to be found in the sense of being understood by and existing in the mind and heart of a loving, attuned, and self-possessed other. —Diana Fosha””
About This Quote
Source Book: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel A. van der Kolk, 2014
Resilience grows when we feel truly understood and supported by a caring, emotionally attuned person.
In simple terms: Resilience needs feeling understood by a loving other.
Key Takeaway
Seek supportive relationships that validate you.
Themes
resilience
connection
emotional health
Mood
hopeful
reflective
Type
psychological
inspirational
When to use this quote
- therapy sessions
- parent‑child relationships
- partner support
- mentor‑mentee dynamics
Key Concepts
attachment theory
self‑possession
empathy
Questions to Reflect On
- Who in your life offers this deep attunement?
- How can you cultivate self‑attunement when others are absent?
A Different Perspective
If the other is unavailable, resilience may falter.
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