“Eroticism resides in the ambiguous space between anxiety and fascination.” — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Love is at once an affirmation and a transcendence of who we are. — Esther Perel Affirmation Copy Share Image
“Polarity Management: Identifying and Managing Unsolvable Problems” — Esther Perel Management Copy Share Image
Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery. — Esther Perel Desire Copy Share Image
“I’ve been a sexual underachiever my whole life, and I resent Warren for feeling entitled to something that I won’t allow for… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“We're walking contradictions, seeking safety and predictability on one hand and thriving on diversity on the other.” — Esther Perel Contradictions Copy Share Image
When we seek the gaze of another, it isn't always our partner we're turning away from, but the person we have ourselves… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Trouble looms when monogamy is no longer a free expression of loyalty but a form of enforced compliance. — Esther Perel Compliance Copy Share Image
Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness. — Esther Perel Autonomy Copy Share Image
There is no neediness in desire ... there is no caretaking in desire. Caretaking is mightily loving, [but] it's a powerful anti-aphrodisiac. — Esther Perel Aphrodisiac Copy Share Image
We used to moralize; today we normalize, and performance anxiety is the secular version of our old religious guilt. — Esther Perel Anxiety Copy Share Image
In dating, if you say no, your lover goes on to the next person. In marriage, if you say no, the person… — Esther Perel Dating Copy Share Image
“Acknowledging the third has to do with validating the erotic separateness of our partner. It follows that our partner's sexuality does not… — Esther Perel Separateness Copy Share Image
The mom doesn't become sexy; the woman does. You have to retrieve the woman from the mother. And she may need to… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
People cheat on each other in a hundred different ways: indifference, emotional neglect, contempt, lack of respect, years of refusal of intimacy.… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“Big data analyst Seth Stephens-Davidowitz reports in the New York Times that Google searches for “sexless marriage” outnumber searches related to any… — Esther Perel Internet Copy Share Image
Most affairs do die a natural death. Today, you look at your partner's phone to find out the weather, and you find… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
Acceptance doesn't mean predictability. Sex isn't always for 11 at night - - it's also 'meet at a hotel room at noon'.… — Esther Perel Acceptance Copy Share Image
Erotic intelligence stretches far beyond a repertoire of sexual techniques. It is an intelligence that celebrates curiosity and play, the power of… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
We know desire is rooted in absence and yearning. What you don't have is often ten times richer than what you actually… — Esther Perel Absence Copy Share Image
“Sexual desire does not obey the laws that maintain peace and contentment between partners. Reason, understanding, compassion, and camaraderie are the handmaidens… — Esther Perel Compassion Copy Share Image
The one word I hear when people have affairs is that they feel alive. They don't talk about the fact they're having… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
There is not one person who can fulfill all your needs. You may choose a partner who is your intellectual equal, and… — Esther Perel Adventure Copy Share Image
I have more than thirty thousand hours of family and relationship counseling experience under my belt. Over the years, I have seen… — Esther Perel Advice Copy Share Image
Real sexual conversations are enormously intimate and beautiful because they reveal so much about who we are and what we want. What… — Esther Perel Beautiful Copy Share Image
“Q: Are there any secrets to long-lasting relationships? A: Infidelity. Not the act itself, but the threat of it. For Proust, an… — Esther Perel Betrayal Copy Share Image
For most couples who come to me - especially in the aftermath of the revelation of an affair, when they are in… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
“In our consumer culture, we always want the next best thing: the latest, the newest, the youngest. Failing that, we at least… — Esther Perel Consumer culture Copy Share Image
“What I can tell you,” she says, “is that his kindness makes me feel safe, but when I think about who I… — Esther Perel Kindness Copy Share Image
“Neutralizing each other’s complexity affords us a kind of manageable otherness.” — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Mystery is not always about travelling to new places, it is about looking with new eyes. — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“Eventually, if desire withers, monogamy too easily slides downward into celibacy. When this happens, fidelity becomes a weakness rather than a virtue.” — Esther Perel Celibacy Copy Share Image
Marriage isn't meant to make you happy - it's there because it gives you a life in which you can find happiness. — Esther Perel Finding happiness Copy Share Image
It isn’t so much that we want to leave the person we are with as we want to leave the person we… — Esther Perel Inspirational Copy Share Image
Our partner's sexuality does not belong to us. It isn't just for and about us, and we should not assume that it… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
What is the relationship between love and desire? How do they relate, and how do they conflict? ... Therein lies the mystery… — Esther Perel Conflict Copy Share Image
“Erotic intelligence is about creating distance, then bringing that space to life.” — Esther Perel Erotic Copy Share Image
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