To look at infidelity from the point of view of sex is a complete narrowing of the phenomenon. There's a reason that… — Esther Perel Bible Copy Share Image
“Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery. Love likes to shrink the distance that exists between me and you, while… — Esther Perel Desire Copy Share Image
“Oscar Wilde wrote, “In this world there are only two tragedies. One is getting what one wants, and the other is not… — Esther Perel Desires Copy Share Image
“When I ask her if her open marriage isn’t painful, she answers, “Sometimes it is. Sometimes it’s not. But monogamy—which we never… — Esther Perel Marriage Copy Share Image
“Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery. Love likes to shrink the distance that exists between me and you, while… — Esther Perel Desire Copy Share Image
I say no to a double standard that men can roam and women must stay put at home. I say no to… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
The whole notion of one person being enough for everything gets instantly challenged when you start to talk with somebody about wanting… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“For [erotically intelligent couples], love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries… — Esther Perel Adventure Copy Share Image
For some people, the experience of sexuality is that they are entirely inside their body, but others feel they have totally transcended… — Esther Perel Ability Copy Share Image
The vast majority of unfaithful people are experiencing a conflict between their values and their behavior, and that is the mess of… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
People grow up learning to be silent about their sexuality, so where are they going to learn to talk about it when… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“You would think that the safety of an established base would make it easier to take these kinds of risks, but no.… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“When the impulse to share becomes obligatory, when personal boundaries are no longer respected, when only the shared space of togetherness is… — Esther Perel Fusion Copy Share Image
The meaning of secrecy is very different when the model of love is one of transparency. So to understand the politics of… — Esther Perel Couple Copy Share Image
Modern infidelity is different than traditional infidelity and sits on top of the romantic ideal that you find "the one" and that… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image