Today, our sexuality is an open-ended personal project; it is part of who we are, an identity, and no longer merely something… — Esther Perel Identity Copy Share Image
“Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. —Anaïs Nin” — Esther Perel Death Copy Share Image
Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex. For men, sex is the connection. Sex is man's language of intimacy — Esther Perel Connections Copy Share Image
I want to engage people in an honest, enlightened, and provocative conversation about the nature of erotic desire and the intricacies of… — Esther Perel Challenges Copy Share Image
“I regret to say that we of the FBI are powerless to act in cases of oral-genital intimacy, unless it has in… — Esther Perel Business Copy Share Image
“Armed with an ideology of love that advocates togetherness, we are awkward about pursuing autonomy. This is especially true of the individuality… — Esther Perel Desire Copy Share Image
I do consider even going to prostitutes, or seeing a hooker or an escort, as having an emotional component, even if it's… — Esther Perel Emotion Copy Share Image
“I do believe that the emphasis on egalitarian and respectful sex—purged of any expressions of power, aggression, and transgression—is antithetical to erotic… — Esther Perel Egalitarian Copy Share Image
Romantics value intensity over stability. Realists value security over passion. But both are often disappointed, for few people can live happily at… — Esther Perel Cybersecurity Copy Share Image
The power of transgression is the archetypal, foundational story of the Bible. We want to break our own codes - sometimes of… — Esther Perel Bible Copy Share Image
“The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships . . . which are basically a reflection of… — Esther Perel Decency Copy Share Image
Even a good marriage leaves people with longings for certain things their marriage will never be. So, do they accept that, make… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
I think love is often a bit selfish, even before we had consumerism. That's not new. A consumer society gives you the… — Esther Perel Choices Copy Share Image
At this point, we are living one of the greatest experiments in humankind - to create something that has, throughout history, been… — Esther Perel Best friend Copy Share Image
I believe that the vast majority of people that are unfaithful are monogamous in their beliefs. The ones who are not monogamous… — Esther Perel Being married Copy Share Image
“It is always astonishing how love can strike. No context is love-proof, no convention or commitment impervious. Even a lifestyle which is… — Esther Perel Eros Copy Share Image
Our consumer economy peddles the notions "romantic consumerism" of finding "the one," of being the one. It's the narcissistic enhancement of, "I'm… — Esther Perel Commitment Copy Share Image
As a teenager growing up in Europe, I embraced the romantic ideal. For me, I had to give up the ideal that… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
One of the big misconceptions is that affairs or trysts are flings about sex. And sometimes they are, but much more often… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
“At one time you pursued Stephanie with great creativity, but no more. There’s an assumption—and you’re not alone—that we need only pursue… — Esther Perel Creativity Copy Share Image
Love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time. Marriage… — Esther Perel Adventure Copy Share Image
The kiss that you have never given is just as powerful as hours of actual lovemaking. The erotic isn't just what is… — Esther Perel Erotic Copy Share Image
Today, we turn to one person to provide what an entire village once did: a sense of grounding, meaning, and continuity. At… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“Infidelity hurts. But when we grant it a special status in the hierarchy of marital misdemeanors, we risk allowing it to overshadow… — Esther Perel Betrayal Copy Share Image
Success, to me, is helping one person or many people counter the isolation and pseudoconnectivity of our lives by boosting their ability… — Esther Perel Ability Copy Share Image
For me, the constitutive element of an affair is the secrecy. It is the secrecy that leads to the lying, to the… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
“Given the transient nature of life, given its ceaseless flux, there is more than a hint of arrogance in the assumption that… — Esther Perel Arrogance Copy Share Image
For some people, a one-night stand doesn't make any difference in a seven-year love affair. I don't believe the degree of betrayal… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
The very ingredients that nurture love - mutuality, reciprocity, protection, worry, responsibility for the other - are sometimes the very ingredients that… — Esther Perel Desire Copy Share Image
On some level we trade passion for security, that's trading one illusion for another. It's a matter of degree. We can't live… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“The grand illusion of committed love is that we think our partners are ours. In truth, their separateness is unassailable, and their… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Are you asking a question because you want to know the answer or are you asking the question because you want your… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Affairs can be powerful detonators. They can invigorate a marriage that's flat, jolt people out of years of complacency. Fear of loss… — Esther Perel Affair Copy Share Image
In desire, there must be some small amount of tension. And that tension comes with the unknown, the unpredictable. You can close… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Modern love is the enterprise that everyone wants to be a part of, yet there's a fifty percent divorce rate in round… — Esther Perel Business Copy Share Image
A # peer relationship is one where the partners experience an affectionate, companionate coupledom. They are friends. They are the product of… — Esther Perel Affectionate Copy Share Image
“Frank Jude Boccio, author of Mindfulness Yoga, to think about as he leaves the session: “We bitch about our difficulties along the… — Esther Perel Books Copy Share Image
If you start to feel that you have given up too many parts of yourself to be with your partner, then one… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Most of us will get turned on at night by the very same things that we will demonstrate against during the day… — Esther Perel Erotic Copy Share Image
“It takes courage to push yourself to places that you have never been before…to test your limits…to break through barriers. And the… — Esther Perel Courage Copy Share Image
