“Eroticism resides in the ambiguous space between anxiety and fascination.” — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
One of the most amazing abilities of sexuality is to momentarily transcend the borders of Self into something that is no longer… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
The kiss that you have never given is just as powerful as hours of actual lovemaking. The erotic isn't just what is… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Our partner's sexuality does not belong to us. It isn't just for and about us, and we should not assume that it… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Today, our sexuality is an open-ended personal project; it is part of who we are, an identity, and no longer merely something… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
But when we reduce sex to a function, we also invoke the idea of dysfunction. We are no longer talking about the… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
At the same time, eroticism in the home requires active engagement and willful intent. It is an ongoing resistance to the message… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
I want to engage people in an honest, enlightened, and provocative conversation about the nature of erotic desire and the intricacies of… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Real sexual conversations are enormously intimate and beautiful because they reveal so much about who we are and what we want. What… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
People grow up learning to be silent about their sexuality, so where are they going to learn to talk about it when… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
We are afraid that our adult sexuality will somehow damage our kids, that it’s inappropriate or dangerous. But whom are we protecting?… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Secrecy fuels erotic intensity because it makes you feel like you're doing something that is entirely yours. It gives you the sense… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Many couples have never had a conversation about sexuality and sexual boundaries. The presence or lack of sex, the quality of it,… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
“Sexual desire does not obey the laws that maintain peace and contentment between partners. Reason, understanding, compassion, and camaraderie are the handmaidens… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
One of the big misconceptions is that affairs or trysts are flings about sex. And sometimes they are, but much more often… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
I say no to a double standard that men can roam and women must stay put at home. I say no to… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
For some people, the experience of sexuality is that they are entirely inside their body, but others feel they have totally transcended… — Esther Perel Copy Share Image
Sometimes it has to do with other longings that are much more existential. Sometimes you go elsewhere not because you are not liking the… — Esther Perel Copy Share
“For [erotically intelligent couples], love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life:… — Esther Perel Copy Share
It’s hard to feel attracted to someone who has abandoned her sense of autonomy. — Esther Perel Copy Share
For some people, a one-night stand doesn't make any difference in a seven-year love affair. I don't believe the degree of betrayal is always… — Esther Perel Copy Share
I want to engage people in an honest, enlightened, and provocative conversation about the nature of erotic desire and the intricacies of intimacy and… — Esther Perel Copy Share
“The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships . . . which are basically a reflection of your sense… — Esther Perel Copy Share
If you start to feel that you have given up too many parts of yourself to be with your partner, then one day you… — Esther Perel Copy Share
“I regret to say that we of the FBI are powerless to act in cases of oral-genital intimacy, unless it has in some way… — Esther Perel Copy Share
On some level we trade passion for security, that's trading one illusion for another. It's a matter of degree. We can't live in constant… — Esther Perel Copy Share
“When the impulse to share becomes obligatory, when personal boundaries are no longer respected, when only the shared space of togetherness is acknowledged and… — Esther Perel Copy Share
“I do believe that the emphasis on egalitarian and respectful sex—purged of any expressions of power, aggression, and transgression—is antithetical to erotic desire for… — Esther Perel Copy Share
“If intimacy grows through repetition and familiarity, eroticism is numbed by repetition. It thrives on the mysterious, the novel, and the unexpected. Love is… — Esther Perel Copy Share
“She’s beautiful, too, did I mention that? She lives the life I didn’t live. I feel middle-age and middle-class around her. Nothing wrong with… — Esther Perel Copy Share
In dating, if you say no, your lover goes on to the next person. In marriage, if you say no, the person stays. — Esther Perel Copy Share
