Asks Quote by Marshall B. Rosenberg
“If we ask two questions, we will see that punishment never works. First: What do we want the other person to do? Second: What do we want the other person's reasons to be for doing as we request?”
About This Quote
Source Book: “Nonviolent Communication”, 2003
Punishment fails; instead, ask what you want the other to do and why, fostering empathy and cooperation.
In simple terms: Ask for desired actions and reasons.
Key Takeaway
Use empathy‑based requests.
Themes
communication
empathy
conflict resolution
psychology
Mood
thoughtful
hopeful
Type
advice
psychological
When to use this quote
- relationships
- workplace
- parenting
Key Concepts
nonviolent communication
motivation
Questions to Reflect On
- What needs underlie your request?
- How can you express it compassionately?
A Different Perspective
People may resist if motives feel manipulative.
