“No society can understand itself without looking at its shadow side.” — Gabor Maté Shadow Copy Share Image
“The attempt to escape from pain, is what creates more pain.” — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“The question is never “Why the addiction?” but “Why the pain?” — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“One effect of peer orientation is that the love and nurturance we have for our children cannot get through.” — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“Being untempered — unable to tolerate mixed feelings at the same time — is the hallmark of the immature.” — Gabor Maté Immature Copy Share Image
... While nervous tension may be a component of stress, one can be stressed without feeling tension. — Gabor Mate Components Copy Share Image
We may not be responsible for the world that created our minds, but we can take responsibility for the mind with which… — Gabor Mate Being responsible Copy Share Image
“I can do this with half my brain tied behind my back,” I used to joke. No joke, that. It’s precisely how… — Gabor Maté Half Copy Share Image
“The fact is, we in this society are often quite removed from our own emotional reality.” — Gabor Maté Emotional Copy Share Image
“Misogyny is a son's outwardly projected rage on a mother who was unable to protect him.” — Gabor Maté Misogyny Copy Share Image
“It is children's desire to be good for us that warrants our trust, not their ability to perform to our expectations.” — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“Do I live my life according to my own deepest truths, or in order to fulfill someone else’s expectations? How much of… — Gabor Maté Faith Copy Share Image
“As parents who make every effort we can to raise our children in loving security, we do not need to feel more… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“Dismissing addictions as “bad habits” or “self-destructive behaviour” comfortably hides their functionality in the life of the addict. It is impossible to… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“Shame is the deepest of the “negative emotions,” a feeling we will do almost anything to avoid. Unfortunately, our abiding fear of… — Gabor Maté Fear Copy Share Image
In the real world there is no nature vs. nurture argument, only an infinitely complex and moment-by-moment interaction between genetic and environmental… — Gabor Mate Argument Copy Share Image
“Counterwill is an instinctive, automatic resistance to any sense of being forced. It is triggered whenever a person feels controlled or pressured… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“The mind emanates from the interface between neurophysiological processes and interpersonal relationships. Experience selectively shapes genetic neuronal potential and thus directly influences… — Gabor Maté Mind Copy Share Image
“Without attachment, the parent succeeds at most in cowing a child into obedience, at the price of grave damage to the relationship… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“Reactions can be gratifyingly mature at one time but distressingly immature at another. If some deeply unconscious anxiety is triggered, a person… — Gabor Maté Anger Copy Share Image
“One cannot get much more vulnerable than to expose oneself psychologically. To share oneself with another and then be misunderstood or rejected… — Gabor Maté Loved ones Copy Share Image
“Another powerful dynamic perpetuates addiction despite the abundance of disastrous consequences: the addict sees no other possible existence for himself. His outlook… — Gabor Maté Addict Copy Share Image
“Attacking family members is all too typical of peer-oriented children, leaving parents and siblings wounded. In most cases, the attacks will not… — Gabor Maté Aggression Copy Share Image
“The successes (financial) represent addictive drives, whose negative impact in the world is tremendous. Who creates more suffering, somebody who sells an… — Gabor Maté Addict Copy Share Image
“Freedom in society is gauged by our success in getting what we want and conditioned by status and power, by race, class… — Gabor Maté Choice Copy Share Image
“Selye discovered that the biology of stress predominantly affected three types of tissues or organs in the body: in the hormonal system,… — Gabor Maté Adrenal glands Copy Share Image
A hurt is at the center of all addictive behaviors. . . . The wound may not be as deep and the… — Gabor Mate Ache Copy Share Image
“There is a foolproof way to distinguish peer-distorted counterwill from the genuine drive for autonomy: the maturing, individuating child resists coercion whatever… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“Cancer and the autoimmune diseases of various sorts are, by and large, diseases of civilization. While industrialized society organized along the capitalist… — Gabor Maté Autoimmune disease Copy Share Image
“Music gives me a sense of self-sufficiency and nourishment. I don’t need anyone or anything. I bathe in it as in amniotic… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“There's a psychologist called Mary & Diamond who at Brooklyn in California, in the 80s studied rats. And they took rats at… — Gabor Maté Brain damage Copy Share Image
“Some parents resist the idea of ADD for fear of seeing their children labeled and categorized. They do not like the idea… — Gabor Maté Children Copy Share Image
“The addict is re-traumatized over and over again by ostracism, harassment, dire poverty, the spread of disease, the frantic hunt for a… — Gabor Maté Addiction Copy Share Image
“I see so many situations where a child is in the midst of plenty, a virtual banquet spread out before him, but… — Gabor Maté Child Copy Share Image
“Materialism is, really, a system of belief or behavior which considers material things and in particular the control and possession of material… — Gabor Maté Climate change Copy Share Image
