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Addiction Quote by Gabor Maté

“The question is never “Why the addiction?” but “Why the pain?” quote by Gabor Maté — Download Open image

““The question is never “Why the addiction?” but “Why the pain?””

About This Quote

Source Interview: The Body Keeps the Score, 2010

Addiction is a symptom of underlying emotional pain, not the primary problem.

In simple terms: Pain drives addiction.

Key Takeaway

Address the pain, not just the habit.

Themes

addiction psychology healing

Mood

reflective empathetic

Type

advice psychological

When to use this quote

therapy
personal counseling
support groups

Key Concepts

trauma emotional regulation

Questions to Reflect On

What pain might you be masking?
How can you safely explore underlying emotions?

A Different Perspective

Pain may be complex and not easily identifiable.

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