Compassion Quote by Kathy Obear
““While I may not appreciate someone’s actions in the moment, it is useful to try to understand and relate to the possible underlying reasons for them. When I shift my focus away from my negative thoughts to think about the reasonable intent and unmet needs of the people whose behavior is the source of my trigger, I am more likely to feel greater empathy and enough distance to de-escalate my emotions to a level from which I can choose a productive response.””
About This Quote
Source Self‑Help Book: Emotional Intelligence in Conflict, 2021
Shifting focus from personal grievances to others’ unmet needs fosters empathy and emotional distance, enabling constructive responses.
In simple terms: Understanding others’ motives reduces personal anger.
Key Takeaway
Practice empathy to de‑escalate triggers.
Themes
empathy
emotional regulation
conflict resolution
self‑awareness
Mood
reflective
calm
Type
self‑help
psychological
When to use this quote
- personal arguments
- workplace disputes
- family disagreements
Key Concepts
psychology
mindfulness
communication skills
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you identify underlying needs in a trigger?
- What steps help maintain distance while staying compassionate?
A Different Perspective
May be difficult when emotions are intense.
