Frame of mind Quote by Chris Voss
““A good negotiator prepares, going in, to be ready for possible surprises; a great negotiator aims to use her skills to reveal the surprises she is certain to find. Don’t commit to assumptions; instead, view them as hypotheses and use the negotiation to test them rigorously. People who view negotiation as a battle of arguments become overwhelmed by the voices in their head. Negotiation is not an act of battle; it’s a process of discovery. The goal is to uncover as much information as possible. To quiet the voices in your head, make your sole and all-encompassing focus the other person and what they have to say. Slow. It. Down. Going too fast is one of the mistakes all negotiators are prone to making. If we’re too much in a hurry, people can feel as if they’re not being heard. You risk undermining the rapport and trust you’ve built. Put a smile on your face. When people are in a positive frame of mind, they think more quickly, and are more likely to collaborate and problem-solve (instead of fight and resist). Positivity creates mental agility in both you and your counterpart.””
About This Quote
Source Book: Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss, 2016
Effective negotiation is a discovery process, testing assumptions as hypotheses, listening deeply, moving slowly, and fostering positivity to build trust and uncover information.
In simple terms: Negotiation succeeds by listening, testing ideas, staying calm, and staying positive.
Listen first, test assumptions, stay calm, be positive.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- business deals
- salary discussions
- conflict resolution
- team collaborations
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you turn a tense moment into a collaborative one?
- What assumptions are you testing in this negotiation?
Negotiators may still feel pressure to win quickly, risking missed insights.