“ Body Orientation When someone does approach and speak to you, pay careful attention to the extent to which you face that… — Jonathan Berent Communication Copy Share Image
“ SPECIAL INTEREST GROUPS These days, there are special interest groups of all kinds: sports clubs, outdoor clubs, singles activities, political groups,… — Jonathan Berent Interest groups Copy Share Image
“If you have low self-esteem, you believe you can see yourself through other people’s eyes, and you judge yourself by what you… — Jonathan Berent Confidence Copy Share Image
“Adolescent Warning Signs Lack of peer relationships outside the family Anxiety in social situations Difficulty with social skills such as keeping a… — Jonathan Berent Depression Copy Share Image
“ . . . Because of a lack of self-confidence and an inability to function independently . . .” It may be… — Jonathan Berent Confidence Copy Share Image
“ Communication Skills As most employers will tell you, performance is based upon your ability both to assess and to respond. You… — Jonathan Berent Communication Copy Share Image
“Remember, to use the word “shy” to describe yourself is to give up control of your life and your ability to improve… — Jonathan Berent Control of your life Copy Share Image
“ BUT WHAT DO I SAY If you are most concerned about what to say when you first meet someone, you may… — Jonathan Berent Body language Copy Share Image
“When your social anxiety becomes so great that you have to avoid the specific situation that causes it, you are dealing with… — Jonathan Berent Anxiety Copy Share Image
“So what good is to be found in today’s metropolitan areas, amidst all the alienation, the anonymity, and the lack of cohesiveness… — Jonathan Berent Career Copy Share Image
“ Turning Rejection Around What if your friendly, hopeful conversation starter is not met with signals of approval or interest? If the… — Jonathan Berent Ask yourself Copy Share Image
“Picture the athlete at the starting line of a race—adrenaline pumping, energy flowing, muscles tightening, skin aglow with anticipatory perspiration, heart beating… — Jonathan Berent Anxiety Copy Share Image
“ Anxiety and the Social Process Generally, in life, we only make progress when we are willing to take risks. If you… — Jonathan Berent Life Copy Share Image
“NOTE: Practice your most effective relaxation techniques before you begin these exercises (refer to Chapter 6 if necessary). People are better able… — Jonathan Berent Close your eyes Copy Share Image
“ Changing Topics Changing topics gracefully is the hallmark of an excellent conversationalist. Changing topics keeps the conversation fresh and allows you… — Jonathan Berent Body language Copy Share Image
“In more than a decade of psychotherapy practice, I have met thousands of people who refer to themselves as “shy.” Often, these… — Jonathan Berent Stumbling block Copy Share Image
“ Nodding You can nod your head to show that you are listening and understanding what is being said. Nodding is a… — Jonathan Berent Communication Copy Share Image
“I’ve often heard it said that everything new starts with a thought. Here is yours: My social anxiety symptoms are temporary and… — Jonathan Berent Mental attitude Copy Share Image
“ Communication Skills and Career Success Many people with social anxiety make the unfortunate mistake of assuming that if they communicate very… — Jonathan Berent Career success Copy Share Image
“ Internal Coaching Internal coaching will help you to manage stress by accentuating your positive mental attitude. Internal coaching works best with… — Jonathan Berent Coaching Copy Share Image
“Changing your immediate environment can be an important step to building confidence and trust within yourself. It can also be very empowering,… — Jonathan Berent Building confidence Copy Share Image
“Parents in particular often confuse nurturing with rescuing. To nurture is to empower —to provide the skills and information that will eventually… — Jonathan Berent Child Copy Share Image
“Once a child enters adolescence, it may become increasingly difficult to raise these issues. Because adolescence is a time of rebellion—of self-definition,… — Jonathan Berent Adolescence Copy Share Image
“You’ve begun to master several techniques for controlling your anxiety. You’re learning the finer points of interaction and studying ways to apply… — Jonathan Berent Basketball court Copy Share Image
“ CONVERSATION GUIDELINES What is the secret to good conversation? Shared interest in the subject; easy, natural flow from topic to topic;… — Jonathan Berent Family life Copy Share Image
“The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, which is the reference manual used by mental health professionals to diagnose psychological problems,… — Jonathan Berent Emotional support Copy Share Image
“ A Professional Image The image you project begins with the first phone call you make. If you feel some initial anxiety,… — Jonathan Berent Close your eyes Copy Share Image
“ PATTERNS OF THE “SHY” What else is common among people who identify themselves as “shy?” Below are the results of a… — Jonathan Berent Fear Copy Share Image
“Socially anxious people of any age are likely to deny their problem, to assert, “I’m perfectly happy. I don’t need friends.” As… — Jonathan Berent Children Copy Share Image
“While you weren’t “born shy,” you were born dependent. As an infant, you relied on your parents for all your personal care.… — Jonathan Berent Dependence Copy Share Image
“If you experience feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem, your poor self-image may keep you from exploring your social self and getting… — Jonathan Berent Ask yourself Copy Share Image
“ Active Listening As a skill, active listening draws on many of the abilities you’ve developed so far, from your relaxation techniques… — Jonathan Berent Body language Copy Share Image
“Anxiety becomes negative when you start to avoid the situation that causes it. For example, if I were to stop making public… — Jonathan Berent Anxiety Copy Share Image
“ Appearance Like it or not, appearance counts, especially in the workplace. Dressing appropriately and professionally is a minimum requirement when applying… — Jonathan Berent Fashion Copy Share Image
“ Behavior Rehearsal So far, we have used imagery to place ourselves in ideal relaxed settings. But mental imagery is also a… — Jonathan Berent Ball player Copy Share Image
“ Adam: Adam was a young man whose anxiety turned into a monster. Where Shelly had a very mild case of social… — Jonathan Berent Adam Copy Share Image
“ The Resume Your resume is like an advertisement for you as a job candidate. It should present you in the best… — Jonathan Berent Books Copy Share Image
“When you are contemplating a job or career change, anxiety can be a large stumbling block. Hand in hand with anxiety goes… — Jonathan Berent Anxiety Copy Share Image
“ 7. Energy. Your degree of personal energy and enthusiasm has a great deal to do with whether or not someone will… — Jonathan Berent Ask questions Copy Share Image
“ Humor Humor is a great social lubricator—it can make interacting go more smoothly. If you are good at telling jokes, try… — Jonathan Berent Comedy Copy Share Image
