“ it is okay to have anxiety. What is not okay is to let your anxiety control you. ” — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“The more you understand about anxiety, the more you will be able to control it. Remember, social anxiety is not some abstract… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“Knowing what you're afraid of means you know why your pulse is racing, and that knowledge provides you with a choice: Handle… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“Parents in particular often confuse nurturing with rescuing. To nurture is to empower —to provide the skills and information that will eventually… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ “I Think I’m Ugly” Social anxiety can lead to distorted perceptions, and the fear of outright rejection based on looks diminishes… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“It may help you to jot down a few notes to alleviate any fear of becoming tongue-tied—your name, the position or company… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ PERFORMANCE ANXIETY If it is indeed human nature to seek social relationships, then why would someone choose not to socialize? As… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“To act on this fear—a fear of being evaluated then dismissed by others—was to forgo a friendship that actually had some possibilities.… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ A CHANGING SOCIETY What does today’s high incidence of social anxiety tell us about modern society? As we’ve seen, social anxiety… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“Anxiety does not exist to control you. You exist to control it. It is, as I said, a simple fact of life… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, which is the reference manual used by mental health professionals to diagnose psychological problems,… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“What is the difference between an anxiety reaction and an anxiety attack? Perhaps it can best be explained by degree. The victim… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“When your social anxiety becomes so great that you have to avoid the specific situation that causes it, you are dealing with… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“What does running from a bear have to do with social anxiety? Everything.” — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ DEPRESSION Many of the individuals in my program have pointed to a level of depression as an initial symptom. Depression—pervasive, overwhelming… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Communication Skills and Career Success Many people with social anxiety make the unfortunate mistake of assuming that if they communicate very… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“First, understand that “ shyness ” and social anxiety are two closely related dynamics: Both terms describe a learned response to social… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“Adolescent Warning Signs Lack of peer relationships outside the family Anxiety in social situations Difficulty with social skills such as keeping a… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“Adult Warning Signs Lack of peer relationships outside the family Feelings of guilt or shame Difficulty with social skills such as keeping… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Adam: Of course, the pressure Adam was feeling was not just related to the math test. The roots of his anxiety… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Adam: Adam was a young man whose anxiety turned into a monster. Where Shelly had a very mild case of social… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ PATTERNS OF THE “SHY” What else is common among people who identify themselves as “shy?” Below are the results of a… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ ELECTIVE MUTISM Social anxiety appears in many forms, some of which are only now coming to light. Socially anxious children, for… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ . . . Because of a lack of self-confidence and an inability to function independently . . .” It may be easier to… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, which is the reference manual used by mental health professionals to diagnose psychological problems, defines the… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Body Orientation When someone does approach and speak to you, pay careful attention to the extent to which you face that person. Facing… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Three Opening Topics of Conversation Use your information-gathering skills to devise topics that would interest you both. As your conversation proceeds, listen carefully… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Nodding You can nod your head to show that you are listening and understanding what is being said. Nodding is a sign of… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Posture The first impression you make is likely to be from several feet away. An observer will assess your approachability from a general… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“These days, there are many different ways to enjoy yourself, and the interactive requirements vary considerably, so it wouldn’t be too hard to find… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ LOW SELF-ESTEEM Characteristic of most people with social anxiety is low self-esteem. I showed you the sequence in Chapter 1. What is the… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Courting and Friendship Reciprocals Reciprocals are the signals people give each other to indicate an interest in companionship. When there is physical attraction,… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ The Resume Your resume is like an advertisement for you as a job candidate. It should present you in the best possible light.… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“It may help you to jot down a few notes to alleviate any fear of becoming tongue-tied—your name, the position or company you are… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“This portion of the chapter is directed at those of you whose son or daughter or other relative is in denial about his or… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
