“What does running from a bear have to do with social anxiety? Everything.” — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“The more you understand about anxiety, the more you will be able to control it. Remember, social anxiety is not some abstract… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“I’ve often heard it said that everything new starts with a thought. Here is yours: My social anxiety symptoms are temporary and… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“Remember, to use the word “shy” to describe yourself is to give up control of your life and your ability to improve… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ SPECIAL INTEREST GROUPS These days, there are special interest groups of all kinds: sports clubs, outdoor clubs, singles activities, political groups,… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ “I Think I’m Ugly” Social anxiety can lead to distorted perceptions, and the fear of outright rejection based on looks diminishes… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“First, understand that “ shyness ” and social anxiety are two closely related dynamics: Both terms describe a learned response to social… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ DEPRESSION Many of the individuals in my program have pointed to a level of depression as an initial symptom. Depression—pervasive, overwhelming… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ LOW SELF-ESTEEM Characteristic of most people with social anxiety is low self-esteem. I showed you the sequence in Chapter 1. What… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ The Resume Your resume is like an advertisement for you as a job candidate. It should present you in the best… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“If you experience feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem, your poor self-image may keep you from exploring your social self and getting… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“Anxiety becomes negative when you start to avoid the situation that causes it. For example, if I were to stop making public… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“Of course, even in such a supportive setting, resistance still arises. In a “friendly” forum, stressors can be explored and confronted more… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ MEN AND WOMEN About 65 percent of the calls I receive from around the country are from men or from parents… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“When your interactions are inhibited by social anxiety, you are unable to get as much out of life as possible, and so… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Job Acquisition The entire job-acquisition process—considering job prospects, your personal and professional preparation, creating a resume, going on a job interview—depends… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ A CHANGING SOCIETY What does today’s high incidence of social anxiety tell us about modern society? As we’ve seen, social anxiety… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“To act on this fear—a fear of being evaluated then dismissed by others—was to forgo a friendship that actually had some possibilities.… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Adam: Of course, the pressure Adam was feeling was not just related to the math test. The roots of his anxiety… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Changing Your Opinion Think back to the low self-esteem statements you identified with, bearing in mind that, no matter how you… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“Anxiety does not exist to control you. You exist to control it. It is, as I said, a simple fact of life… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Seven Steps of Relationship Development For people with social anxiety, dating can be particularly stressful. There are many unknowns: “Does this… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“The first step in overcoming your problem is to acknowledge that what you call shyness is anxiety, a very specific kind of… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ PATTERNS OF THE “SHY” What else is common among people who identify themselves as “shy?” Below are the results of a… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“Picture the athlete at the starting line of a race—adrenaline pumping, energy flowing, muscles tightening, skin aglow with anticipatory perspiration, heart beating… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“When your social anxiety becomes so great that you have to avoid the specific situation that causes it, you are dealing with… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“Groups are, in a sense, a microcosm of the real world. In all groups, there are leaders and followers . . .… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ CONVERSATION GUIDELINES What is the secret to good conversation? Shared interest in the subject; easy, natural flow from topic to topic;… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“You’ve begun to master several techniques for controlling your anxiety. You’re learning the finer points of interaction and studying ways to apply… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Touching Like nodding, touching shows interest. Upon meeting someone, the best way to show respect and sincere interest is to shake… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ ELECTIVE MUTISM Social anxiety appears in many forms, some of which are only now coming to light. Socially anxious children, for… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Communication Skills and Career Success Many people with social anxiety make the unfortunate mistake of assuming that if they communicate very… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“What does running from a bear have to do with social anxiety? Everything. An anxiety reaction is your fight-or-flight response. If you… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Adam: Adam was a young man whose anxiety turned into a monster. Where Shelly had a very mild case of social… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ . . . Because of a lack of self-confidence and an inability to function independently . . .” It may be easier to… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, which is the reference manual used by mental health professionals to diagnose psychological problems, defines the… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Body Orientation When someone does approach and speak to you, pay careful attention to the extent to which you face that person. Facing… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Three Opening Topics of Conversation Use your information-gathering skills to devise topics that would interest you both. As your conversation proceeds, listen carefully… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Nodding You can nod your head to show that you are listening and understanding what is being said. Nodding is a sign of… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Posture The first impression you make is likely to be from several feet away. An observer will assess your approachability from a general… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“These days, there are many different ways to enjoy yourself, and the interactive requirements vary considerably, so it wouldn’t be too hard to find… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ LOW SELF-ESTEEM Characteristic of most people with social anxiety is low self-esteem. I showed you the sequence in Chapter 1. What is the… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ Courting and Friendship Reciprocals Reciprocals are the signals people give each other to indicate an interest in companionship. When there is physical attraction,… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“ The Resume Your resume is like an advertisement for you as a job candidate. It should present you in the best possible light.… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“It may help you to jot down a few notes to alleviate any fear of becoming tongue-tied—your name, the position or company you are… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
“This portion of the chapter is directed at those of you whose son or daughter or other relative is in denial about his or… — Jonathan Berent Copy Share Image
