The idea of evil is always subject to denial as a coping mechanism. — John Bradshaw Always Copy Share Image
Children aren't fooled. They know we give time to the things we love. — John Bradshaw Child Copy Share Image
We move from the illusion of certainty, to the certainty of illusion — John Bradshaw Certainty Copy Share Image
I have never met an aggressive person who wasn’t a fearful person. — John Bradshaw Aggressive Copy Share Image
“Crying when feeling angry is a common female feeling racket.” — John Bradshaw Feeling Copy Share Image
All these feelings need to be felt. We need to stomp and storm; to sob and cry; to perspire and tremble. — John Bradshaw Cry Copy Share Image
You can find more traditional Shakespeare than we do. But what we want to bring to these works is energy, passion, freshness. — John Bradshaw Energy Copy Share Image
The figure of Satan and the fires of hell have been demythologized by modern Christian biblical scholars, theologians and philosophers. — John Bradshaw Been Copy Share Image
To truly be committed to a life of honesty, love and discipline, we must be willing to commit ourselves to reality. — John Bradshaw Commit Copy Share Image
It's okay to make mistakes. Mistakes are our teachers -- they help us to learn. — John Bradshaw Failure Copy Share Image
As a child I was not allowed to express my feelings, so I had to go back through therapy and express the… — John Bradshaw Allowed Copy Share Image
There are plenty of quacks in the field. Fewer than you'd expect, though still plenty (in alternative medicine). — John Bradshaw Age Copy Share Image
“committed to a life of honesty, love and discipline, we must be willing to commit ourselves to reality.” — John Bradshaw Committed Copy Share Image
I try to get people thinking, to consider their pasts and presents, ultimately encouraging them and giving them the tools to embrace… — John Bradshaw Consider Copy Share Image
Children need parents who model self-discipline rather than preach it. They learn from what their parents are actually willing to do; not… — John Bradshaw Child Copy Share Image
“In functional families the roles are chosen and are flexible. The members have the choice of giving up the roles. In dysfunctional… — John Bradshaw Family Copy Share Image
To be shame-bound means that whenever you feel any feeling, need or drive, you immediately feel ashamed. The dynamic core of your… — John Bradshaw Ashamed Copy Share Image
“Hell, in my opinion, is never finding your true self and never living your own life or knowing who you are. This… — John Bradshaw Hell Copy Share Image
The capacity for love that makes dogs such rewarding companions has a flip-side: They find it difficult to cope without us. Since… — John Bradshaw Animal Copy Share Image
“When our instinctual life is shamed, the natural core of our life is bound up. It’s like an acorn going through excruciating… — John Bradshaw Life Copy Share Image
“When we are exposed without any way to protect ourselves, we feel the pain of shame. If we are continually overexposed, shame… — John Bradshaw Shame Copy Share Image
“The more dysfunctional the system, the more closed and rigid are the roles it assigns. In families that are chemically, sexually or… — John Bradshaw Dysfunction Copy Share Image
“Unconditional love and acceptance of self seems to be the hardest task for all humankind. Refusing to accept our “real selves,” we… — John Bradshaw Human suffering Copy Share Image
“Where are you, Adam? According to the book of Genesis, Adam went into hiding after the fall. By trying to be more… — John Bradshaw Adam Copy Share Image
“The agony of this chronic stage of being cannot be endured for long. At the deepest level, toxic shame triggers our basic… — John Bradshaw Guilt Copy Share Image
“If a cat falls out of a high-rise building or a tall tree, it has another trick available: forming a “parachute” by… — John Bradshaw Cats Copy Share Image
“PEER GROUP SHAMING I remember Arnold. He was a brilliant accountant. He had been viciously shamed in high school. His presenting problem… — John Bradshaw Finding fault Copy Share Image
“the narcissistic personality disorder are: Grandiosity, extreme self-involvement, and lack of interest and empathy for others, in spite of the pursuit of… — John Bradshaw Jealousy Copy Share Image
“The fantasy bond is an illusion of connectedness that the child creates in relation to the primary caregiver, who is shaming her.… — John Bradshaw Bonding Copy Share Image
“Emotions are a form of energy in motion. They signal us of a loss, a threat or a satiation. Sadness is about… — John Bradshaw Anger and fear Copy Share Image
“Richard Bandler suggested that one of the major blocks to creativity was the feeling of knowing you are right. When we think… — John Bradshaw Creativity Copy Share Image
“Anger is considered especially bad. Anger is one of the seven deadly sins. These sins send you to hell. In its most… — John Bradshaw Anger Copy Share Image
“5. The “No Talk” Rule. This rule prohibits the full expression of any feeling, need or want. In shame-based families, the members… — John Bradshaw Communication Copy Share Image
“In the past, when dogs’ functions were mostly rural, it was accepted that they were intrinsically messy and needed to be managed… — John Bradshaw Animal Copy Share Image
“THE DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY RULES 1. Control or Chaos. One must be in control of all interactions, feelings and personal behavior at all… — John Bradshaw Children Copy Share Image
“SHAME-BASED FAMILY RULES Each family system has several categories of rules. There are rules about celebrating and socializing, rules about touching and… — John Bradshaw Family Copy Share Image
“SHAME AS THE CORE AND FUEL OF ALL ADDICTION Neurotic shame is the root and fuel of all compulsive/addictive behaviors. My general… — John Bradshaw Addiction Copy Share Image
